mc5music Posted December 23, 2005 Posted December 23, 2005 Here is the deal with me, My girlfriend just left me after 2 1/2 years, and after 3 days was dating another guy that she met at her 21 birthday party. We met in high school and on graduation we started going out. I really treated this girl right, I would celebrate month aniversaries with her, until we got to a year, I would visit her mom, in the hospital, I loved her niece, and we really had a great time. When we first started college, I stayed at home, and commuted, while she went to community college. I didn't care, she really wanted to go to Kansas University, but could not afford it, so I was there to comfort her when she couldn't go. Our first 1 1/2 was very good, but then I started having family problems. My parents got divorced and, I haven't seen the only father I knew in a year now. And then my mother already got remarried and now is pregnant, so I was dealing with some hard times. On top of that I then transfered to Kansas University, so I would have to drive and see her now, AND I DID! I drove and saw her every weekend after work, thrusdays, and in the beginning of the semester I saw her 5 out of the 7 days of the week! I didn't care, I really loved this girl. In our last year it started getting rocky, we would fight alot, and it eventually got to everyday, but it would be over stupid stuff, that I could not control. She was a VERY controling person, I couldn't even see my family without arguing. But I stuck it out. There were times in the relationship were I broke up with her, and she would cry, and say I'll change and stuff, and I freely forgave. But on her 21 birthday, we got in a big fight about my cousin not being able to come. I didn't like that because she wanted other people to come that I didn't know and she didn't really know, and he really wanted to come over, just for an hour, but she didn't like him because she didn't like the stuff he did, which is not fair because he NEVER did anything against her or said anything against her. So then I left and didn't show up at the beginning of her party thinking that she would call and say I'm sorry for not accepting your cousin, but she didn't, so I ended up going over later, because I didn't want her party to be completely ruined, and I guess before I got over there, this guy that she is with now was listening to her cry about me, and now she has feelings for this guy. I didn't think that sticking up for your family was bad! Now after 2 1/2 years she says that she only feels friend feelings for me, and that she wants to do 21 year old stuff, so I said I wish I could but I turn 21 in july, and she said I can't wait that long. Then she said that I love you, but I don't know if I'm in love with you. And I was like WHAT, because she during this relationship wanted to marry me, she was pushing me toward marriage at first. Now one of the reasons I know she was mad was because toward the end of the relationship I was really preachy about the Bible, because if we were going to get married I wanted to see what compromises we could make. When we compromised she was ok, because I gave her a diamond necklace the day before she broke up with me, and we slept together, and she offered me sexual favors and stuff, but I didn't want to do it because I wanted to wait until marriage now. We were doing go on that except when we where to horny , but anyways, the next morning she woke up gave me a kiss, she said have a great day, and then I go to my aunts house. She calls on her break like always, 5 times a day, and I was babysitting my cousins that I don't see at all, and she was mad at me because I volunteered to babysit, and I shouldn't have done that, so then after work I was going to surprise her and see her, but she had already left to go pick up her car from her bestfriends house, so now the tone of her voice was different, so I asked her, whats wrong, you act like you don't want to be with me anymore, and she says I don't know anymore, and thats where it took off. When I asked her why, eventually she said stuff like she was tired of her grandparents not accepting me, because I was black, she didn't like my religion, and she was tired of crying 3 times a week, and that I didn't like to see her. But I never meant for her to cry, I would also cry, and I feel like I was a terrible boyfriend, I wish her family could accept me, Even the days when I didn't want to she her I DID! I saw her more than my own mother! my family has taken her to Disneyworld TWICE, I have taken her to amost every nice resturant in Kansas city, I really wish I could see her everyday but I have school and work too! and the things she would cry about were things that were good for me, like a full ride to KU! She didn't like anything that would take time away from her, and if I wanted to see my cousin, she felt I didn't want to she her! I love this girl soo much, we both have said are hurtful things to each other, but I never cursed at her, I never hit her, and I never had any attraction or want with anybody else but her. So now she was like she wants to be friends, but she is so cruel and says stuff like, well I'll call you if I want to talk to you, or she'll tell me that she was going on a date with that guy, and now it is going on 9 days since she broke up with me, and she has not called me or contacted me in 4 days. Why did she leave me? Will she ever come back?
Clone56 Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 Probably best to pick up that bible and pray..cause really who knows, u wont know
MikeDD86 Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 she is probably not going to go back out with you because she made it very clear that she didn't want to be with you. plus the fact I guess you two have different religions. that also makes it very hard on a couple to stay together. but whatevery you do don't call her. just go out and have fun as hard as it sounds. hang out with friends and family people who will make you happy. it will help you over time get over her
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