chickenleggs Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 My ex ran off with her boss 8 weeks ago he is married(17 years) with 3 kids. She told me he has now left her and is living at her house but he is spending Christmas with his family. I know i shouldnt but just checked her emails and he is declaring his undying love for her and saying how they are going to spend the rest of their lives together. She has sent off for a wedding brochure!!! How long does it take for a divorce to go through and do you recon it will work!
Art_Critic Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 How long does it take for a divorce to go through and do you recon it will work! What/who she is doing is no longer your business.. you are cyber stalking her.. and you are practicing self defeating behavior. What your ex is doing is her business and not yours..Checking her email is not right and you need to leave her alone and try to move on. Sorry to be harsh but I felt you needed to hear it.
Owl Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 CL- Question...ARE you in the process of divorce? Have either of you actually filed for a divorce? And what do you hope that a divorce will do for you? Are you asking if it will work to 'wake her up'? Or what? Is she your EX-wife, or currently still your wife but seeing someone else? Kind of confusing here. Need more background information here to be able to help you out much friend.
Author chickenleggs Posted December 21, 2005 Author Posted December 21, 2005 she is my ex girlfriend and he is divorcing his wife
Owl Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Well, in that case I've got to agree with AC...don't waste your time hacking her email account...nothing you can do with that from my perspective. I guess be glad that this didn't happen later when/if you'd married her. How long it takes to get a divorce depends on the state...and no reason why he couldn't get a D if that's what he chooses to do.
Lonestar Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Get out of her email! You're only hurting yourself. I did the same thing and it almost killed me inside. Thank god I don't have access to that crap anymore. People are better off not knowing what an ex is doing.
monkeybars Posted December 22, 2005 Posted December 22, 2005 I never knew my exes email password, it would have been hard to be strong!!! But seriously, you two are no longer involved, even if you were, you would have no right to check her emails, it's intrusive. Let her go and screw up her life on her own. And she will, I can pretty much guarantee that the om will not leave his wife for her, and she will most likely come crawling back when she realises it. if you make the steps now to delete her from your life, when that time comes, you won't even want her back. because you will see her for who she really is!
whichwayisup Posted December 22, 2005 Posted December 22, 2005 she is my ex girlfriend and he is divorcing his wife Sorry, but then it is none of your business what she does. It doesn't concern you as she is your ex. You've invaded her privacy and hacked into her email! IF you two were still a couple and she was cheating on you, then going into her email could be justified - But you crossed a line. If she finds out, she'll have every right to be pissed off at you. You need to move on, let her go. She isn't part of your life anymore! Sorry to sound harsh but you're heading into dangerous territory...Maybe consider going to talk to a professional (Therapist I mean, not PI) and get some help.
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