ShyGuy123 Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 I am a 30-year-old male and very shy. I am 5’9” 170lb healthy build and very attractive. I get many looks and stairs from women when I do happen to get out of the house. Sometimes it overwhelming and drives me nuts, because I have no idea what to do. My problem is, I have a lot of difficulty picking up women. When I do find a woman that is staring me down, I have no idea how to take it any further. This happens to me a lot when I go to Wal-Mart, grocery store or the mall. Do I just walk up and try to talk to them? I don’t want them to think I’m some crazy lunatic or something. Any ideas?
BlacknessOfSleep Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 What exactly do you do when you notice someone is looking at you? Do you smile? Glance away? Turn your back? Simple gestures mean the world!!!!!
Neptune Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 Why not just focus on activities where people your age hang out rather than the random nature of places like Walmart? It is difficult for many people to approach strangers in public and have the ability to get to know them. So, don`t feel like you have to pull that off. Everything is going in your favor. First, just be patient and give yourself time to develop your social skills.
phyrespryte Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 I am a 30-year-old male and very shy. I am 5’9” 170lb healthy build and very attractive. I get many looks and stairs from women Women give you stairs? Well there's your problem! Man I'm such a dork... Acutually I think you should try to work on the social skills thing like Neptune said. I'm sort of in the same situation. I usually find it weird trying to talk to someone I don't know especially when I think they're cute. You could practice small talk on random people you meet. For example, the bank teller, or checkout clerk at a grocery store. Also it's easier to start a conversation with someone if you compliment them or ask them about themselves. Like wow that's an interesting tattoo you have there! What's it mean? blah blah blah. Anyways good luck!
CaliGuy Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Try having confidence. If you know you're attractive you have to think it. Face facts: Not every girl you approach is going to be interested. Salesmen that make good money don't take rejection to heart. They know not every initial contact will lead to a sale but they keep at it, going door to door until they find a buyer. In your case it's just a matter of opening the right door. You will never, ever be good at chatting it up with women if you don't start practicing. Practice makes perfect. I used to be just like you until I said "to hell with it, I don't care if I get rejected I'm just going to talk to her and let the cards fall where they may." It doesn't work on every girl because frankly while I am good looking, I'm no Brad Pitt, mmmk? But I know that and I don't let it discourage me. It's easy to get discouraged or get our feelings hurt when we're rejected but look at this way. You weren't made for every woman on this planet. No man was. You just have to keep turning over every stone you can find until you find the right match. The sooner you get started the sooner you can find the right woman for you. Good luck.
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