LN8840K Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 I would say be the way you were when you she went home with you for 3 days ....... don't fix it, if it's not broke Plant the seed and let it grow, watching it and wanting it grow faster is a waste of one's time.
Author caring guy Posted December 26, 2005 Author Posted December 26, 2005 LN8840K, i was thinking something similar. Sometimes i get these, what alcoholics call, moments of clarity! I see clearly what i do wrong & what should be done right & yet in the past never did them! I hope it isn't broke, that vibe of reassurance i sometimes give off is a pain & when i booked those tickets & she couldn't go to Liverpool with me as she had fever & i was saying 'come over to mine, i'll give you some TLC' & i'll look after you, p'd her off & i hope she can put that under the rugg! She wants me to act as i did on the first day we met! I get from that she means that she wants me to be the gentleman that made her laugh, she had a good time with & we're just taking a fiew steps back. We planned to go walks as i live in the country, she the city & that would involve her staying at mine! She feels that by doing that now, it would lead me on. It won't, i feel i should tell her that! She even mentioned that sex is important to her, so if she wants to jump on me she can (saying it jokingly). I've got to be, myself, not serious, show her this, not mention relationships, but to make sure she knows that by staying at mine & going out with me for a beer or a meal, doesn't mean it's moving on! But indirectly, it will & she'll respect me more! Just be fun to be around! & want her tro want to be in my company! Am i right do you think?? I know, i worry & think too much!
LN8840K Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 Why don't you take a break from this chick ...don't call her ..don't text her ...don't plan trips with her ...... you are skating on thin ice, you have not fallen in yet, but you should at least hear the ice cracking ...........get off the ice, give it time to harden then start skating again...... I have noticed most of the time, it's not the girls you rarely call who don't answer ......
Author caring guy Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 We met tonight, had dinner, we walked in the snow, she held MY hand, SHE put her arm around me when walking. She has a cold, we talked a lot. I asked her if she'd like to go out on Thursday, near my place. She said she'd think about it. When i got home this evening, i texted her to see if she got home ok! She said she did & that she was wondering what to wear on Thursday! I told her that if she wanted i'd sleep in the other room! I was a gentleman to her tonight, gave her her present, told her i wasn't trying to buy her affection, like some guys do! Listened to her a lot & told her i was there for her! She said to me 'don't talk too much, just go with the flow', something i have to learn, big time! cg
Author caring guy Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 We met tonight, had dinner, we walked in the snow, she held MY hand, SHE put her arm around me when walking. She has a cold, we talked a lot. I asked her if she'd like to go out on Thursday, near my place. She said she'd think about it. When i got home this evening, i texted her to see if she got home ok! She said she did & that she was wondering what to wear on Thursday! I told her that if she wanted i'd sleep in the other room! I was a gentleman to her tonight, gave her her present, told her i wasn't trying to buy her affection, like some guys do! Listened to her a lot & told her i was there for her! She said to me 'don't talk too much, just go with the flow', something i have to learn, big time! cg
Author caring guy Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 We met tonight, had dinner, we walked in the snow, she held MY hand, SHE put her arm around me when walking. She has a cold, we talked a lot. I asked her if she'd like to go out on Thursday, near my place. She said she'd think about it. When i got home this evening, i texted her to see if she got home ok! She said she did & that she was wondering what to wear on Thursday! I told her that if she wanted i'd sleep in the other room! I was a gentleman to her tonight, gave her her present, told her i wasn't trying to buy her affection, like some guys do! Listened to her a lot & told her i was there for her! She said to me 'don't talk too much, just go with the flow', something i have to learn, big time! cg
Author caring guy Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 We met tonight, had dinner, we walked in the snow, she held MY hand, SHE put her arm around me when walking. She has a cold, we talked a lot. I asked her if she'd like to go out on Thursday, near my place. She said she'd think about it. When i got home this evening, i texted her to see if she got home ok! She said she did & that she was wondering what to wear on Thursday! I told her that if she wanted i'd sleep in the other room! I was a gentleman to her tonight, gave her her present, told her i wasn't trying to buy her affection, like some guys do! Listened to her a lot & told her i was there for her! She said to me 'don't talk too much, just go with the flow', something i have to learn, big time! cg
Author caring guy Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 Met her tonight, she had cold, she held my hand, she hugged me, told me to go with it & not ask to think too much, just go with flow! We are going to her country & to Liverpool next week! She says i'm a very good friend at mo, but one that she kisses on lips & puts her arm around! We talk openly, about everything. I know what i mustn't do if i want to keep her! When i took her to the station, i asked her if she wanted to come & stay at mine on Thursday & go for a beer! She said she'd think about it! When i got home i texted her to see if she'd got home ok, she said she was & that she was wondering what to wear on Thursday!!! I said i'd sleep downstairs if she wanted, but who knows! I'm just gonna take it as it comes & not push! cg
Author caring guy Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 Met her tonight, she had cold, she held my hand, she hugged me, told me to go with it & not ask to think too much, just go with flow! We are going to her country & to Liverpool next week! She says i'm a very good friend at mo, but one that she kisses on lips & puts her arm around! We talk openly, about everything. I know what i mustn't do if i want to keep her! When i took her to the station, i asked her if she wanted to come & stay at mine on Thursday & go for a beer! She said she'd think about it! When i got home i texted her to see if she'd got home ok, she said she was & that she was wondering what to wear on Thursday!!! I said i'd sleep downstairs if she wanted, but who knows! I'm just gonna take it as it comes & not push! cg
clandestinidad Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 Whoa...why so many posts?? And why are the last 2 different?? Are you okay? Are you panicking or something?
LN8840K Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 Caring guy ...maybe you should not follow my advice ...everytime I post how screwed you are........................... you come back with a good story ..... come to think of it ..I am single hmmmmm, is it because I follow my own advice I am going to start asking you questions ...keep it up
Author caring guy Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 Sorry about multiple posts, my pc kept crashing & said that my post had failed! I met her & don't know what i did right!, just kept cool & then got that surprise text! She confuses me a lot! I get something i see as negative & then, when we meet, all is different, i guess she has been grouchy as she's been ill! Keep me on my toes LN8840K I can't screw up now! I told her that if she wants to come back (as she will) after the pub tommorow, i'll sleep downstairs if she wants. Don't know wether that did it considering we have explored each other thoroughly previously!, maybe she just enjoys my company & wants to be with me. I'd just like to know what i did right! I am a bit like Hugh Grant in 4 weddings & a funeral , that gibbering, cute English guy that is thoughtful & caring & makes her laugh! i dunno. cg
Author caring guy Posted December 30, 2005 Author Posted December 30, 2005 I'm realy confused, the above post was all true, we hada great night! However she texted me telling me she didn't feel like coming to mine as she'd been to physio about her back & she was in pain!. I said to her we could do it tommorow & she replied that there's no bus on Saturday to get back to hers where she will be having New Year with her landlady! But i told her by text that there are buses & she didn't reply! Is it me or is that a bad omen! I mean i leaft her with the idea of coming here & it was up to her & she said she wanted to! I'm thinking now that she is making excuses about coming here! She said we can meet in Town tommorow, but then if she can do that, why can't she come tonight! I said i'd sleep in seperate room! We've a day planned on Tuesday & i'm thinking she'l let me down for that! I understand if she's ill, but i knew she would change her mind about today & she has before when she got a cold! I don't know wher i am, i can't question her, as it's pushing! I gave her my xmas pressy, she then had some pics done at a booth & said one was for me! I made it clear that i'm not trying to buy her affection & that we both like being together & by her spending time at mine, isn't leading me on & i know we have to go slow! She was holding my hand & arm around me. I was just looking forward to this a lot today! Do i ask her what the situation is? She says go with it & not talk about 'us'. She said she was grumpy today as she had a bandage on & her ribbs hurt!, so then why can she meet in town tommorow & why when i told her the busses were running, did she not reply saying Friday was ok! Maybe she will tommorow! I just feel i don't know where i am & i't doing my head in! & i'm falling for her! I'm either nutts or paranoid or correct! Help cg
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