Zetter Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 It's now been a long 4 months since my wife moved out and moved on. She never cheated on me, according to her, but started dating a mutual friend a week after she moved out. As she obviously had designs on this plan before her departure, yet she claims that by not hooking up with said person until after she moved out that it made it alright...in her mind:rolleyes:. I guess it really doesn't matter. A That pretty much put an end to our working on things. She has been hot and lukewarm the past 4 months, telling me she wants to get a divorce, then telling me she might want to think about maybe possibly kind of sort of trying to be friends and see where it goes. I got sick of it after a while and asked for papers. Twice. She is supposed to email me the paperwork as we are doing a simple filing - we already split everything up, so it's really just paperwork at this point. My frustration: i've seen nothing yet. No contact, no paperwork, nothing. I'm kind of a puss because I don't want a divorce and I don't want to force this divorce if she is thinking about things during this hesitation. On the other hand, i've sufferred long enough and am still living in limbo-land as far as ending the marriage is concerned. I'm trying to move on, but man, it is difficult. Especially since she keeps changing her mind every week. I'd kick my own arse if I could, because I know what I should do and I don't do it. Out.
LifeRealistic Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 I feel for you , and I love your honesty! Ok, lets try this - its called a " She tox", corny name but you get the point. Detoxify yourself from her - no email, no phone- no text msging ( if yu do that), no voice mails etc. NOTHING for 2 weeks. That is alot longer than it might even sound. Give her what she THINKS she wants. Let her see life without you! No more of this back and forth - and going to you when things are not going as peachy as she dreamed with this " friend" . You do know that is probably what is going on. AND if after the 2 weeks , she gives up , or what have you - you have your answer. If you love something set it free- if it comes back to you- its yours forever
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