RZA-Man Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 I just deleted my ex from my list of friends on myspace and friendster. IT FELT GOOD. It's a good way of moving on. I recommend it!
Author RZA-Man Posted December 21, 2005 Author Posted December 21, 2005 Does this also for work others? I'd like to hear your thoughts.
jasmine111 Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 yes, like for me deleting all my text messages makes me think of them and the past less, deleting a number or taking them off a buddy list is a good way of letting them go
teethbrushes Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 I guess. I think its kind of juvenile. My ex did something similar when he dumped me and admittedly I didn't do anything wrong...and then he deleted my phone number (a while later, but he did), deleted me from his friends lists on facebook and myspace and all of that stuff and it kind of hurt my feelings especially since he wasn't the one who "needed" to move on since he already had.
Author RZA-Man Posted December 21, 2005 Author Posted December 21, 2005 I can see how it would be juvenile if the dumper did that, it's sort of like insult to injury. However, as a dumpee I think it's a good way of stating no only that you're moving on but also making the dumper realize that you in fact are no longer making them part of your life. As far as a phone number is concerned if you're dumped, you should immediately delete it. It helps implement NC and prevents drunk dialing. Truly, one of the best things I ever did after getting dumped
Just Visiting Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 I am the dumpee as my ex decided that he needed to be alone so I left. I blocked and deleted him off my MSN Messenger. I don't need to see or talk to him, especially when I am the one who has to move on and heal. He still kept me on his MSN Messenger, and I see as a way to ease his guilt. The last thing I want to hear is the pitiful "Oooohh..I am so sorry I hurt you, I want us to be friends" blah blah blah. From previous experiences, it will take me a good year to two years before I can be friends with an ex.
JS17 Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 I've done it to all of my ex's. I think it's juvenile but i don't give a crap. They chose not to be a part of my life anymore so I'm wiping them clean. Why should I have to look at pictures of them and their girlfriends or see the messages they leave for their girlfriends. I have a right to remove myself from such damaging information. And as juvenile it is, it still gave me a sense of freedom from them and their heinous lies.
monkeybars Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 I've deleted all of his information off of my cell phone, including pictures..which was hard beleive it or not. I've also put away all of his pictures, and little things that I had lying around. I also don't go to certain websites anymore, because I don't like wondering if it was his post, etc....Why torture myself? I did that enough. It helps to move on and pretend they don't exist for now.
patwheel Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Same here, deleted all emails, numbers, everything that could remind me of her. I even changed phone numbers. Juvenile? Yes. Reward? Knowing that she can't contact me in any remote way. The hardest part was getting rid of her phone number, since I remembered it by heart. But eventually, that'll go away.
lindya Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 It's the first thing I do. I don't tend to keep a mental note of mobile numbers in my head, so deleting the number of someone who's left my life is a good way of ensuring that I don't call them when I'm feeling tired and emotional.
CaliGuy Posted December 22, 2005 Posted December 22, 2005 I did the same thing and don't consider it juvenile if you are the 'dumpee.' It's part of NC. If they are still on your list, myspace, email, IM, phone, etc, it's all a temptation to break NC. I deleted my ex off my MSN yet she still has me on hers, a sure sign she hasn't let go quite yet. That doesn't mean I hold any hope (I don't) but I do have solace in knowing she'll never see me online, which means she too won't be tempted to contact me. NC is healing. I had three days in Mammoth and hardly thought of her.
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