MIOSBORNE Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 Why do and how can cheaters lie consistently and convincingly. Now wife is claiming that she made up the other things about cheating the other night. Says she just wanted to get a reaction. She says that today after I asked her to leave after she refuses to end contact with OM. Early Sunday AM she stated she needed to go and get some "air". She was gone an hour and a friend said he saw our truck parked in front of the grocery store and she was on the phone. She told me she went to a convenience store. This friend is very reliable and our truck has special features that are unmistakeable. 2nd lie, I found intimate lubricant in her car, although unopened. She claims it was for "us". The receipt showed she bought it at 7:30 pm on Sunday. She stated she was going to a Christmas party when she left at 6:00 pm on Sunday. She brought the lubricant at a store thirty miles from where the party was supposed to be. Another "irony" is that the store is close to where OM lives.She was caught in another lie and just dismissed me. Any ideas on finding out correct address of this man. I want to provide as much info to my atty as possible. Any advice would be appreciated.
lilmoma1973 Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 I am so sorry to hear all this is going on it is obvious she is lying and cheating and whether you want to believe her or not that is the question!! I would cut my losses and tell her to chose and if she couldn't tell her it is time to go you can't live like this anymore!! I couldn't live like you are and it will eat you up inside wondering!!! Just MO !!
Author MIOSBORNE Posted December 20, 2005 Author Posted December 20, 2005 I feel crazy but I still love her and am concerned about being mean to her even after everything she has done to me. We also have a two year old daughter Lil Momma and I feel guilty as if I'm putting her out as well and I love her with all my heart. I am in a very tough situation. My wife knows this and plays this weakness against me. Also, she is not working currently and cannot support herself or my daughter. When I ask her to leave she tells people I am trying to "kick her ot" and uses other guilt games.
Mz. Pixie Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 They lie because they are scared, afraid to hurt the other person, ashamed or they are trying to keep their options open. What you're going through sucks. If you don't want to put her out of the house, why not go somewhere yourself?
Owl Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Mis- Have you gone over to the marriagebuilders website like I'd suggested? There is a forum there that could help you out a lot! Post your story in the General Questions II section...read up on the info at that site too...it can help you out a lot in understanding all of this.
lilmoma1973 Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Mis- Have you gone over to the marriagebuilders website like I'd suggested? There is a forum there that could help you out a lot! Post your story in the General Questions II section...read up on the info at that site too...it can help you out a lot in understanding all of this. Totally agree with Owl the marriage bulders site can help alot !! It is just like this forum but you can get insite from couselors too!!!! I agree with Mz Pixie you go somewhere if you won't make her leave!! She is trying to see if the OM is going to work before she is through with you so she is wanting her cake and eat it too!! Good luck:)
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