ames84 Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 can someone pleeease help me with this guy??? i'm 21 years old and i met him about a year and a half ago. when we first met we took things slow, he said his last girlfriend was "psycho" and he had no desire to date anyone. but we talked on the phone for a couple hours every night and hung out every so often (by hang out i do NOT mean a date, i mean watching a movie at one or the others' place). he was a jerk sometimes, but he is also extreeeemely immature (he's 22). he's a total "guys guy" and always has to be hanging out with his boys....after about 4 months we started having sex and we still are now (only occasionally). i'm always the one that would press for questions about a relationship but he's always just vague about it and still makes it clear that we're both "single". we've never gone on a date or really hung out in public, unless its at a bar. i've only met a couple of his friends and none of his family. he goes through periods where he won't even talk to me for a couple of weeks...but when we're together he holds me and touches me in the most gentle way, and has even told me he's loved me before and considered me one of his "best friends" on the other hand, sometimes he acts like he's hooked up with other girls because "its not like we're dating so we can both do whatever we want" but then again he'll act jealous if he knows i've been hanging out with another guy. another strange thing is that he still talks to his psycho ex-girlfriend (they broke up two years ago but i still see her name on his phone). we're both really stubborn and have gotten in serious yelling fights before, but after a couple of days it all starts over. i don't GET HIM. i realize it's something wrong with him and i deserve BETTER but there are those moments when i see the sensitive side to him and that is what i'm hanging onto. i guess it's hard for me to just call him up and end it...i still want to stay friends but i think continuing sex is a bad idea. i think what i'm really asking for is for a guy to explain what he thinks is going on with this guy?? is he socially awkward? really immature? a player, what???
jasmine111 Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 hes a player and just wants a 'friends with benefits relationship'. it sounds like you already have feelings for him so i would leave him now.
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