damwinston Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 Some of you here know me, some not. I have not yet told my tale of how I got in this situation (maybe someday but it is way too long and way too crazy) but I have a strange question. Let me explain first that my dog needs surgery and so I have been talking with a friend of the MM (about the dog). Apparently the MM told the friend something to the effect of "she keeps calling me and she is only calling you to get information about me." This, I can honestly say, I am not doing. I love my dog far more than the feelings that I have for the MM. In fact the feelings that I have for the MM are, well, disgust. Second, I smoke. I would like to quit but I want to quit long enough so that when I get mad or drunk and pick up a cigarette I can say "but I don't really smoke." So my question is this: I will NOT call MM. I am totally NC and happy about it. However, like smoking, I want to know when I can "pick up that cigarette again." In English I mean I want to know when I have been NC long enough that when he calls (which he or his gf does often) I can hang up on them. Nicely of course, I mean I am a female. Does that make any sense? Or am I just crazy - obviously I am or I wouldn't be in this mess. thanks, dammy
Author damwinston Posted December 20, 2005 Author Posted December 20, 2005 P.S. I think that I have a date tonight. He is not married and was/is my first love. The R with the MM is definitely OVER but I can't wait for him to realize that I haven't called him and therefore he will call me - I have already hung up on him and/or his gf too many times to count. dammy
newbby Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 let him think what he likes. who cares. as for nc and giving up smoking, the best way to do it is to say "i am a non smoker" and forget about the future.
Owl Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 If your R with MM is over, why even give any thought at all to what he thinks or does? Let it go completely...and if he DOES call...say "Who? Oh yeah, I remember you...no thanks, not interested in buying any more cookies from your daughter...good bye!" Quit giving this guy any thought at all...start focusing on other things instead.
Author damwinston Posted December 21, 2005 Author Posted December 21, 2005 I would like to but as everyone knows it is hard to do. Plus, he and his girlfriend have threatened me and my parents at different times. I don't want to know when it is OK to talk to him. I have already told him that I don't want to talk to him - at all. I just want to know when I can be mean to him when he calls. It was a stupid question anyway. thanks, dammy
newbby Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 dont be mean, be indifferent. you can always be indifferent.
Author damwinston Posted December 21, 2005 Author Posted December 21, 2005 Indifference would be nice however he and his girlfriend have threatened me (like deadly), my family and my dog. Furthermore the girlfriend has abused the kids in the past. So I don't want to be indifferent - I want to be mean. He deserves it. She deserves worse if that is imaginable!! P.S. The date went great. It is nice to be around someone who doesn't have someone else. I almost felt cared about if that seems possible!! We should all try it. dammy P.S. Why do I have a red dot above "post reply?" Am I the only one?
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