hopelessly_naive Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 Is there anything in the middle between casual dating and exclusive dating? Because I've been dating this guy for a few weeks and we're having a hard time defining what we are (his idea to originally define it). On only our fourth date he brought up the whole boyfriend girlfriend subject and he got his way and we adopted the titles (fast, I know). Now his friends are giving him crap about it and he's getting nervous so he wants to go back to casual dating (which we both consider "casual dating" non-exclusive, and if someone's exclusively dating someone then the titles of boyfriend/girlfriend apply), I of course agreed without putting up a fight because I had even mentioned to him it was all happening a little fast. But is there else anything inbetween? (neither of us could think of anything somewhere in the middle of those two catagories so we ended up with the lesser)
kitkat826 Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 I was in the middleland for six months with the last guy I dated. We were some constant mix of casual dating and near-married. He asked me to move in with him within the first couple weeks (even though I didn't) and I was always at his family functions...yet we never verbally agreed upon our "exclusivity" and there was always this subconscious tension of untrust between us. In some regards, it was fabulous, and in others, disasterous. I think we had different priorities at the time and neither was going to compromise what they were looking for before "giving in". I think if neither of you want true exclusivity, then you are right, it is "casual". Which is fine, IMO, since you have not known each other for that long. Don't be afraid, though, to voice your opinion if you do want an exclusive relationship even though he's shying away. There are too many girls sticking around in casual dating situations hoping for it to just magically "improve".
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