unsafe Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 Ok so I know this guy from years back he got in touch with me over the internet and asked me to meet him for drinks to catch up on old times. I totally had a crush on him back then so I was excited to go out and see him again. I mean its been like 10 years since I had seen him. We had tons of fun, laughed alot and just had alot of fun. He kissed me. I thought it was weird, but whatever. So now we both know we are interested in each other. Oh by the way he has a daughter, I know baggage, but if he is worth it then it might be good. Anyway he called me up a couple days latter and asks me to meet him again for drinks. I was disppointed I though he would at least ask me out on a real date. So tonight is our drink thing. I know he is going to pick me up this time...but a drink isn't a date. Do you think he wants one thing? Or maybe he is cheap? Or maybe he doesn't want anything serious? he keeps telling what a great catch I am? I am so confused anyone with good advice? I could use it....
Outcast Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 What's your problem? So go on another date. And a bunch more. And, if you two fall in love, spend your lives together.
Author unsafe Posted December 20, 2005 Author Posted December 20, 2005 my problem is...do guys really take girls they like out for drinks? or do they take girls they like on dates? real dates....where they don't get to tipsy to maybe remember that night not that, thats how I am. But I am sue to guys asking me out tro dinner, or to the movies, or for coffee...a date date...?
Outcast Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 Two people going out someplace is a date. You don't have to get tipsy. But if all he ever wants to do is go drink and he gets 'tipsy' every time, you probably want to pass this guy by.
2p worth Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 If he's asking you out for a drink - that could be considered a date. Go along, then take it from there. If you end up kissing him and things do go on from there, will you really care whether it was a "proper date" or not? People meet in all kinds of strange circumstances and fall for each other and going out for a drink is pretty normal. I shouldn't think it is something you need to worry about.
Craig Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 Go! Maybe this is his idea of proceeding slowly. We don't all read the same dating manual.
LN8840K Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 I would/have taken women out for drinks and consider it a real date, But like outcast says, if thats all he ever wants to do you might want to think about it ...then again I'm not a real boozer, so bar-flys are not my speed.
Maestro Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 "...so I know this guy from years back he got in touch with me over the internet" "....I totally had a crush on him back then" "..... I mean its been like 10 years since I had seen him." Cut him some slack. Evidently, he has been "thinking" about you for a while. Forgive me if this sounds crass, but the image I got in my head after reading your post was one of a young puppy pissing himself because he got so excited!!! (too see you again, that is). Hell, that's why he kissed you!!! My point is this, he's eager to get things going, but is now playing reserved because of what happened on your first date. This is why he asked you out for drinks again, and not something more formal like dinner and a movie. He just wants to be sure you feel something before he makes a total ass of himself. Warning: Alcohol is not like other products. There are risks associated with its use, risks that are largely preventable.
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