MIOSBORNE Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 I have an address and name of the OM. I want to inform his GF/wife if he has one what is going on. I feel obligated to do so. Anyone have info on how I can find out who else is in the home? I searched probate records and the home is in the name of an unidentified female. Could be his mother. How often are probate records updated? I figured they are updated at least yearly.
lilmoma1973 Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Could be his mother but also could be his spouse or SO !! i don't know if it was me i wouldn't care i would tell whoever go on !! May not be right but till you in that situation you never know !! Do what you think you should only you can make that decision ? Good luck
whichwayisup Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Why do you feel obligated? Why is it your business? Sorry, I can't say too much as I don't know your situation and why it's necessary to do such a thing.
harleygirl92156 Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 I too feel the wife or SO should be told, but have some fun first. Tell the OM that you are going to tell her, just don't tell him when. Let him stew and suffer a little waiting for the bomb to drop. Then call the house and ask questions like is OM there? When will he be home? Is this his wife and if so could I leave a message for him. Tell him (your name) called and will call back later. That will get him for a few days. Then after a while....drop the bomb if you do indeed find out there is a wife or SO. If you can find out if there are kids involved. If there are, be careful, VERY careful about how you handle this. I would say if there were kids let it go for their sake. If he hangs himself then it the blame lays on himself and you don't have to deal with any guilt.
Outcast Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Oh aren't you just lovely. Is this the Christmas present you want to give to his family? How rotten can people be?
ZBoogy Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Oh aren't you just lovely. Is this the Christmas present you want to give to his family? How rotten can people be? Let me ask you something. If you walked into a china shop with a baseball bat and started breaking the displays and merchandise for a bit of fun, do you think that it will be your choice as to whether or not you're going to jail? When you screw with other people's lives, you should not expect for them to bend over backwards to make your life convienient. Oh yes...let's just be sensitive and polite and wait for the most comfortable time to break the news. It's ridiculous. Oh the poor OM. What about *his* feelings??? Tell me...how considerate was this guy regarding Osbourne's marriage? The OM already decided he was cool with ruining his family's Christmas as well as the other 364 days of the year, the moment he started getting involved with someone else's wife. If you play, you pay. It almost sound like you'd consider it a better outcome if the guy continued to have his cake and eat it too. Hooray for lying to spouses. Let's keep that going! *slow clap* Osbourne isn't rotten at all. I think you've got your parties mixed up. You play--you pay.
harleygirl92156 Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Oh aren't you just lovely. Is this the Christmas present you want to give to his family? How rotten can people be? I am the wife of a cheating husband and certainly wish someone would have had the guts to tell me what my husband was up to. He wasn't even discreet and no one had the guts to tell me. They just let me go on looking like a fool. Why should the OM/OW get off. Their spouse or SO have a right to know what kind of person they are in a relationship with. I have no kids at home so my perspective is a little different. If there are kids involved I think he should NOT do anything but maybe let the OM know that if he sees, or hears about him doing anything but being faithful to his family he will drop the bomb on him. I never once suggested he do it before Christmas either. I had the bomb dropped on me 4 days before Christmas last year and that sucked. There really isn't a good time, but that was the worst. It really doesn't have anything to do with being rotten, it is principal. How would you feel if the entire town knew your husband was cheating on you, looked at you and thought you were stupid and talked about it behind your back. Like a fool, that is how you would feel. She has a right to know. You can't work on problems in a marriage if you don't even know there is a problem now can you!
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