??? Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Hi. Just wondering what people think of the concept of an "emotional affair". Does it exist? Is it possible to get so close to someone emotionally that it counts as having an affair, even if there is no sexual contact? Where does one draw the line between a really good friend, and something more?
Owl Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Well, tell you what....go read my story, and then you tell me what you think. My case is a PERFECT example of an emotional affair...because they NEVER got the chance to be together physically. Tell you what...do a search for Sysyphus who also posted on my thread...read his story too. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t49539/ You let me know if you think this could meet YOUR definition of affair.
lilmoma1973 Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 I think that is how most affairs start because they get something from the other person that their spouse or s/o isn't giving them!! This then makes them want to be with the other person and neglecting their spouse because they feel more a connection with the other person as oppose to their spouse/so
randomgrrl Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Absolutely they exist. My husband had one over the summer and it was a classic Emotional Affair. It was devasting for me, but fortunately we have moved beyond it and are not at a good place. The OW has kept her distance, which is the appropriate thing for her to do in this situation....
Metermaid Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 I had an emotional affair that began this summer. It most definitely is possible and can affect a marriage far worse than an physical affair - because it deals directly with the heart. Most people would rather hear their spouse was physicalsomeone else, but felt nothing emotionally, rather than getting emotional intimacy from someone else. I am still nowhere near figuring out my situation. complicated and painful. You can read either of my threads http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t70365/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t76939/
mopar crazy Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Most people would rather hear their spouse was physicalsomeone else, but felt nothing emotionally, rather than getting emotional intimacy from someone else. I am still nowhere near figuring out my situation. complicated and painful. I honestly can't say which part of my H's A hurt me the most, the EA part, or the PA part. My H's A started out as an EA. In a few months it turned into a PA. I found out about the EA part of their A first from love letters and poems he wrote to her. I felt so hurt and betrayed. I never knew how much it could hurt. Then a couple months later I find out his EA had turned into a PA. Just when I was healing from the EA my heart was torn to shreds again finding out about the PA. I honestly can't say which one hurts the most, all I know is that both hurt like he!!.
LifeRealistic Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Sadly it would be an affair. Maybe not what we would think of right away when we think of the word "affair "- but it is. The moment we even look or think about another in a certain way, is actually committing adultry - bible defination. However, our minds tend to justify it - because its not physical , we thinks its not sinful. But is it hurtful? It is causing you not to work on your current situation a little bit harder? You are getting what you need , thats missing in your marriage. And as others said, this type of affair, at least for a woman, knowing her man has had one, is harder to dea with. A woman would rather her man have had a one time meaningless ( hopefull safe sex) affair, than an non sexual emotional one. Emotions last for a life time / Sex lasts, what...a few minutes? All great love stories - are tragic love- love that can not be together- and usually emotional.
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