mrB2006 Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 I have this blind date sometime this week. Like I mentioned in an earlier thread, I am looking forward to it. But I do have several more questions to ask. 1) I know that this question sounds strange because of my previous issue about my 'friend'. But how do I make it known to this person that I would like to keep this as purely 'friends only' (or aquaintences, if you will). I will be going overseas in less than three months. And I will be gone for over two years. I don't want to become attached to this person. I mean I don't want to end up getting too attached because that would be cruel to this girl. (It could end up like my past situation). Should I emphasize that I will be gone in a few months? Or should I just let things take their course? 2) I am very shy and anxious around people I don't know. However, after awhile I tend to loosen up a bit. At least with my 'friend' I could carry conversations on almost any topic. I have known her since freshman year of high school. However, with this blind date, I am only hearing what a few others have told me about her. What are some good icebreakers for blind dates? To be honest, this would be my very first blind date. Also, I am a bit concerned about this girl I will be going out with. Supposedly she hasnt dated much. From what I understand, she is about as shy as I am when it comes to the opposite sex. I want to approach this date without leading her on in anyway. I know from experience how heartbreaking it could be when someone leads you on. Thanks MrB
whichwayisup Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Man, you're putting extra pressure on yourself by worrying. Just go and have fun. Try to relax, be funny and witty. There is no need to tell her about your future plans UNLESS it comes up in conversation. I think that if you come right out and tell her, she will feel abit embarressed and foolish, like why did this guy and I hook up for a blind date if he isn't going to be around in afew months. I can't see you leading her on anyway, you're to aware of other's feelings to do that, especially hers, as you've posted she is shy and inexperienced.
Author mrB2006 Posted December 19, 2005 Author Posted December 19, 2005 thanks whichwayisup....I just go and have fun...Gosh, I worry way too much... mrB
alphamale Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 I don't want to become attached to this person. I mean I don't want to end up getting too attached because that would be cruel to this girl. you have not even met her yet and you don't even know if she will like you. you're putting the cart before the horse. 2) I am very shy and anxious around people I don't know. However, after awhile I tend to loosen up a bit. the majority of people are like this. even the most outgoing person is a little shy and anxious but they have learned to hide it. I want to approach this date without leading her on in anyway. I know from experience how heartbreaking it could be when someone leads you on. you're not getting married or anything....actually, hundreds of steps have to be taken before you two are at the altar tying the knot
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