BryteNytez Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Ok so me and my girl have been dating for 8 months now. She has never had any sexual experience with a guy except mild fondling. Now, I've fondled her and gave oral sex. I've been doing this for about 2 months now and quite often (once a week usually). However, she has yet to give me very much physical intimacy. No hand job, no oral sex, just kissing and a few hickies. The problem is, I've explored every nook and cranny of her body, showing her tons of new feelings and sensation. The only time she makes any attempt to touch my crotch is when she's trying to tickle me (I'm quite ticklish around there). I've told her I want more and she's given me several excuses as to why she hasn't: she's too nervous, she's afraid she'll mess up, (I told her at the start of the relationship that I'm not to concerned with getting my jollies, I'm more focused on hthe girl) she's got it drilled in her head that I don't want that (though I've made it clear more than a month ago I do want this)... She said in a past relationship, she almost had sex with her boyfriend, gave him hints that she wanted to but it never happened... so all this makes me feel like she dosen't feel for me near as strong as she did as this guy, if she's not wanting to do things below sex (I'm not asking for actual intercourse, we're both virgins, I just want sexual intimacy without real straight up sex). I don't pester her about it all the time but it does come up quite often. I give her so much attention and I get hardly any. What should I do??
JS17 Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Try being overly nice and understanding about it because it sounds like she's really scared. Tell her you want to teach her and to try it. If she doesn't like doing it then she can stop. When she starts doing it tell her what to do and reinforce that she's doing a great job.
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