Shindig Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 I've known a guy for about 5 months. He has always been very respectful and treats me like a friend but I've been interested in him romantically for about 3 months and I told him so 2 months ago. He didn't really say much about it but we started hanging out a lot more. He works adjacent to one of my favorite hangouts (squash courts) and we'll go out for lunch or dinner after a game with other mutual friends from the same locale. We text about once a day (which he apparently doesn't do with any other of our mutual friends) and do the group dinners twice a week or so. Periodically he has met up with me and out-of-town guests who come to visit for dinner as well. Twice we've ended up at one of our houses or the other with mutual friends after a night out. We've never been intimate physically apart from a hug and kiss on the cheek when greeting (not atypical for our town). He always seems concerned when I mention doctor appointments and can tell/inquires when I sound stressed. I'm not sure if he's taking his time in getting to know me because I tend to be a little more aggressive than most women and can be impatient. He is fairly reserved but at the same time somewhat immature. I know I'll have a good friend in him no matter what but I'm wondering if I should tell him I'm interested in him romantically again or just appreciate the relationship for what it is and move on. We have a lot of common interests (sports, political philosophies, food, wine, lifestyle, etc.), I admire him as a person, and we always have fun when we're together - presumably all good reasons to date a person OR be friends with them. I guess I'm looking for a tiebreaker between my head and my heart. Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions?
daphne Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 Shindig, I think you've already made it clear. It would be overkill to remind him. He knows. He hasn't shown any interest in you other than as a friend so I believe you'd be too aggressive. I think you're going to have to accept that he's not that into you. Cliché as it sounds, guys that like you don't act like that. Good luck
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