Found out

[taylor3205]

I have recently found out that my ex has been talking to me and telling me a load of lies. He has in fact beeing seeing someone else and IS seeing someone else. Since I found out and he could no longer deny it any longer his attitude has completely changed. He no longer is all nicey nicey and to be honest I HATE him. I phoned his mother yesterday and told her that if he doesent give me the money he owes me back I will be up at her house with his dog and it will be getting left there, she said she would get him to phone me, I know that he will get a lot of pressure off her for bringing it to her door. I phoned him countless times at work yesterday until he eventually phoned back asking me to stop as he was getting into bother, and you know what I said 'GOOD'. I have been too nice now for too long and its no longer going to happen. He has fed my head full of lies and deceived me for long enough. He is a lying toerag and I just want to get hold of his new partner and rip their faces off. I do not care about him anymore, I just want to hurt him in any way I can. I really really despise him.

[In Sync]

I have recently found out that my ex has been talking to me and telling me a load of lies. He has in fact beeing seeing someone else and IS seeing someone else. Since I found out and he could no longer deny it any longer his attitude has completely changed. He no longer is all nicey nicey and to be honest I HATE him. I phoned his mother yesterday and told her that if he doesent give me the money he owes me back I will be up at her house with his dog and it will be getting left there, she said she would get him to phone me, I know that he will get a lot of pressure off her for bringing it to her door. I phoned him countless times at work yesterday until he eventually phoned back asking me to stop as he was getting into bother, and you know what I said 'GOOD'. I have been too nice now for too long and its no longer going to happen. He has fed my head full of lies and deceived me for long enough. He is a lying toerag and I just want to get hold of his new partner and rip their faces off. I do not care about him anymore, I just want to hurt him in any way I can. I really really despise him.

 

Calm down...I don't understand..if he was your ex, how had he been lying to you? Why would he be faithful to you if he's your ex, and why were you even communicating with one another. As for the money, I don't know the amonut but is there any written proof like a receipt..this would be were you might need to consult a lawyer, because you don't want to be accused of harrassment if you call him repeatedly. As for the dog, don't use an animal or child as a pawn. Return it to him and enough.

[taylor3205]

Calm down...I don't understand..if he was your ex, how had he been lying to you? Why would he be faithful to you if he's your ex, and why were you even communicating with one another. As for the money, I don't know the amonut but is there any written proof like a receipt..this would be were you might need to consult a lawyer, because you don't want to be accused of harrassment if you call him repeatedly. As for the dog, don't use an animal or child as a pawn. Return it to him and enough.

 

I know...the reason he was lying to me is because he has been keeping in contact with me and telling me he just didnt want to be in a relationship with me and just wanted to be friends, cared lots for me and blah blah blah. Promising me there was no one else with all his heart he just didnt want a relationship with me or anyone.

 

It was hard him leaving, it was hard to hear he didnt love me no more. He sat and cried saying he wish he didnt have to hurt me. Coming across as the good guy. I know I dont own him, I cant control him and he is out of my life and owes me nothing and if he is with someone else then that is his business. The thing that hurts the most is that he lied to me, he said he wanted to be honest with me and he hasnt been. I actually started to come to terms with it and was begining to think it was hard for him, but at the end of the day, he lied when we were together and he has been lying to me ever since we split up, while at the same time trying to be all nice and sympathetic.

 

All the while he has been seeing someone else. I am very angry and everyone is saying to just let it lie as Im the one that is going to come across as the bad guy. It may be childish but I want to hurt him as much as he has hurt me. I also know that will achieve nothing. I really do feel as though I will never trust anyone ever again.

 

I am supposed to be meeting someone on tuesday to go shopping and for coffe etc. He has been there for me through all this and I really like him, met him online but he lives local and we have been texting and phoning each other for the past few weeks. I dont think Im ready though but on the other hand I really do want to meet him. There is also another guy that I really like and the feeling is mutual but again, I just dont think I am ready. I am scared I will come across as I dont care and push them away. I just feel all over the place.

 

At least now I am not pining for him everyday. Yes it still hurts but he is not the loving caring person I thought he was. He has hurt me beyond belief and for that I hate him.

 

As far as the money is concerned. Its not worth it. It isnt enough to get lawyers involved. But still it could come in very handy right now. I think I just need to leave it alone.

 

I just feel like Im becoming a very depressed, bitter and spiteful person.

[In Sync]

I know...the reason he was lying to me is because he has been keeping in contact with me and telling me he just didnt want to be in a relationship with me and just wanted to be friends, cared lots for me and blah blah blah. Promising me there was no one else with all his heart he just didnt want a relationship with me or anyone.

 

It was hard him leaving, it was hard to hear he didnt love me no more. He sat and cried saying he wish he didnt have to hurt me. Coming across as the good guy. I know I dont own him, I cant control him and he is out of my life and owes me nothing and if he is with someone else then that is his business. The thing that hurts the most is that he lied to me, he said he wanted to be honest with me and he hasnt been. I actually started to come to terms with it and was begining to think it was hard for him, but at the end of the day, he lied when we were together and he has been lying to me ever since we split up, while at the same time trying to be all nice and sympathetic.

 

All the while he has been seeing someone else. I am very angry and everyone is saying to just let it lie as Im the one that is going to come across as the bad guy. It may be childish but I want to hurt him as much as he has hurt me. I also know that will achieve nothing. I really do feel as though I will never trust anyone ever again.

 

I am supposed to be meeting someone on tuesday to go shopping and for coffe etc. He has been there for me through all this and I really like him, met him online but he lives local and we have been texting and phoning each other for the past few weeks. I dont think Im ready though but on the other hand I really do want to meet him. There is also another guy that I really like and the feeling is mutual but again, I just dont think I am ready. I am scared I will come across as I dont care and push them away. I just feel all over the place.

 

At least now I am not pining for him everyday. Yes it still hurts but he is not the loving caring person I thought he was. He has hurt me beyond belief and for that I hate him.

 

As far as the money is concerned. Its not worth it. It isnt enough to get lawyers involved. But still it could come in very handy right now. I think I just need to leave it alone.

 

I just feel like Im becoming a very depressed, bitter and spiteful person.

 

Look here, you know already (and we who have all not done NC straight away) that by staying in any psuedo- friendship is like dead man walking. So face the fact that you were the one who left the door and opportunity open for The Ex to give you false hope. He wanted out and like a good little con artist he told you lies. You got conned. Join the club. Put that anger into not wanting him to hurt, because that will make you bitter. But use the anger to finally CUT all ties to him. OK? Gonna do that. The lesson your post has taught is the minute someone wants out complete NC. I have yet to read one post where after the break-up anyone has felt better staying in contact with their ex's. The common thread seems to be. Contact with the Ex leads to More Heartache or Pain. When we we ever get it..I don't know.

 

As for the time being..Cool off and perhaps delay dating. I'm sure there will be plenty of guys for you to meet and date down the line..But right now, until you've worked through these feelings of hurt and betrayal and feeling (should I say it) foolish...until you get them at a place where they are not swirling around your heart 24/7 like vultures...leave those guys alone. You are not ready and you know as much.