noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 okay so after the bizarre experience i had with this girl that refused to date me b'cos i am not a Jew i decided to take some time off from the dating scene... last week i was trying to locate a place and trying to get some help. i noticed an attractive female and i went up to her and asked whether she knew where the place was located. she said she was walking by that side and she can take me there.. so we walked and had a small chat. once we reached the place i said bye and was about to leave.. but this girl took me by surprise, she said "i really like your personality and would like to keep in touch. can i get ur email?". i gave it to her and also got hers.. later we also exchanged numbers... then i called her up for a small date and she agreed... and guess what she did? she didn't turn up... i got frustrated and called her up and she said she is busy... later she sent me an email and said that she needs to focus on her career now and doesn't have time for any of this... WTF??? i dunno whether its my bad luck that i keep bumping into women like this or is it something else... it was she that asked for my email... huh.. whatever!!!
slubberdegullion Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 Just be thankful it wasn't a transvestite.
loony Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 okay so after the bizarre experience i had with this girl that refused to date me b'cos i am not a Jew i decided to take some time off from the dating scene... last week i was trying to locate a place and trying to get some help. i noticed an attractive female and i went up to her and asked whether she knew where the place was located. she said she was walking by that side and she can take me there.. so we walked and had a small chat. once we reached the place i said bye and was about to leave.. but this girl took me by surprise, she said "i really like your personality and would like to keep in touch. can i get ur email?". i gave it to her and also got hers.. later we also exchanged numbers... then i called her up for a small date and she agreed... and guess what she did? she didn't turn up... i got frustrated and called her up and she said she is busy... later she sent me an email and said that she needs to focus on her career now and doesn't have time for any of this... WTF??? i dunno whether its my bad luck that i keep bumping into women like this or is it something else... it was she that asked for my email... huh.. whatever!!! Wow, I'm really sorry! What a bitch! Believe me, this is not normal. Would you mind giving more details? This sounds like a very weird behavior.
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 Wow, I'm really sorry! What a bitch! Believe me, this is not normal. Would you mind giving more details? This sounds like a very weird behavior. hi loony, what can i say... well i found this girl attractive and that's why i went up to her and asked whether she knew about the place that i was looking for... we had a small talk while walking towards that place.. it was barely around ten minutes.. under normal circumstances i wud have asked for her number but i wanted to stay away from dating for a while and so i just said "thanks for showing me the place.. it was nice talking to u.. bye". that's when she said "u have a very good personality. i really like it and want to keep in touch with you. can i get ur email?". i assumed that she was interested and i gave it to her. then after exchanging phone numbers i asked her out for a date. she agreed and then didn't show up. what am i supposed to do? it was she that asked for my email and not me. she said she has a very hectic schedule and needs to focus on her career now blah blah blah... i just decided not to waste any more time on her... i normally have a smiling face and many women have also complimented on my big eyes.. i think it kind of draws people towards me and then my bad luck kicks-in and everything is in ruins.. gosh even when i want to stay away from these things something like this happens.. but i am atleast happy that it didn't end up like the other woman that was really crazy.... that was a huge waste of time.. whatever... i think next time if i feel that some woman is interested in me i will run for the hills hahahaha
loony Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 so i just said "thanks for showing me the place.. it was nice talking to u.. bye". that's when she said "u have a very good personality. i really like it and want to keep in touch with you. can i get ur email?". i assumed that she was interested and i gave it to her. then after exchanging phone numbers i asked her out for a date. she agreed and then didn't show up. what am i supposed to do? it was she that asked for my email and not me. she said she has a very hectic schedule and needs to focus on her career now blah blah blah... i just decided not to waste any more time on her... I'm just making a guess now. Maybe she thought you were cool, because you did not try to hit on her. When she asked for your email address and you two exchanged phone numbers you should have left it at this and let her do the next step, because when you asked her out, you suddenly indicated interest in her and this might have led her to believe you were too scared to ask her out until she made some move. I guess, a lot of women want a man who is a bit more assertive and knows what he wants. Or maybe she just wanted to befriend you and then you suddenly asked her out for a date. She thought you were a nice guy and wouldn't hit on her, but then you did and so she acted like a bitch to get rid of you. Not the nicest way, but quite convenient for some people. I tend to believe that with pretty girls you need to be a bit more careful, they very likely will be more demanding than the regular Janes.
alphamale Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 i noticed an attractive female attractive women love to f*** with men's heads and play with them like a cat plays with a mouse. if you want to have sex with good looking women you must be better at the game than they are and the worse you treat them the more interested they get. see NOCLOBBER, these women are used to getting what they want and when they want it from most men. you need to be in the 5% of men who can out fox these babes... when she asked for your email your response should have been...."well girlie, if you're really interested in me then give me your home phone # and i'll give you a call because I don't give out my info."
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 I'm just making a guess now. Maybe she thought you were cool, because you did not try to hit on her. When she asked for your email address and you two exchanged phone numbers you should have left it at this and let her do the next step, because when you asked her out, you suddenly indicated interest in her and this might have led her to believe you were too scared to ask her out until she made some move. I guess, a lot of women want a man who is a bit more assertive and knows what he wants. Or maybe she just wanted to befriend you and then you suddenly asked her out for a date. She thought you were a nice guy and wouldn't hit on her, but then you did and so she acted like a bitch to get rid of you. Not the nicest way, but quite convenient for some people. I tend to believe that with pretty girls you need to be a bit more careful, they very likely will be more demanding than the regular Janes. ok actually i left out some details.. i didn't ask her on a date right there.. we exchanged email ids and left... i then emailed her and she replied back. we got each others' numbers via email.. i then called her up and then asked whether she would be interested in meeting me and she agreed.. then when i went there she didn't turn up.. it was then that she gave her excuses... as i said earlier i was definitely not interested in a date and that's why i didn't ask her out immediately.. but looking at her interest i thought why not take a chance and boy was i wrong.. this is not a big deal for me b'cos i knew about her intentions right there...
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 the worse you treat them the more interested they get. man why is it so wrong to be a normal person? i seriously think i got to become a jerk... whatever..
Lishy Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 Oh in hindsight it is so easy to say what went wrong ..... The bottom line was she was a BlTCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Clobsie I feel so sad for you that was the last thing you needed to happen right now! I wish I could slap her and tell her she is a real meanie!!! Hey the upside is that what doesnt kill you makes you stronger .... You will be a real catch for the right lady soon babe .... Watch this space!!!!!
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 just an additional info.. as soon as i received the first email from her i knew something was wrong .. b'cos she had the written the entire email in capital letters... not a big deal but i think its unusual... (all her subsequent emails where in caps too).
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 Clobsie I feel so sad for you that was the last thing you needed to happen right now! right on Lishy! i was minding my own goddamn business... i spoke to her for barely 10 minutes at the most while we both were walking towards the place that i was looking for.. it was she that asked for my contact info. and what am i supposed to think? oh she only wants to be my friend and that's why she is asking for my email???? BS! next time when i meet some b*tch i will shake hands and say "come lets f$ck" hahahaha
loony Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 next time when i meet some b*tch i will shake hands and say "come lets f$ck" hahahaha And how are you going to know so soon if she's a bitch or not, smartie?
Lishy Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 And how are you going to know so soon if she's a bitch or not, smartie? She will be female hahahhaha
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 She will be female hahahhaha HAHAHAHAHAA
Walk Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 Clobsie was weeding the "friends only" girls out quick. I think you were smart for asking her out early on. You got your answer as to whether she wanted to date or not out of the way. No attachment, a little damage to your pride, but not a broken heart. The woman's wacked in the head! Maybe if you stopped being so sexy, women wouldn't beg for your email address. She probably couldn't help herself. She knew she couldn't date anyone, but you over came her self control with your immense sexual power and she couldn't resist.
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 Clobsie was weeding the "friends only" girls out quick. I think you were smart for asking her out early on. You got your answer as to whether she wanted to date or not out of the way. No attachment, a little damage to your pride, but not a broken heart. The woman's wacked in the head! Maybe if you stopped being so sexy, women wouldn't beg for your email address. She probably couldn't help herself. She knew she couldn't date anyone, but you over came her self control with your immense sexual power and she couldn't resist. oh yeah... i seriously don't know what i am gonna be doing with all my sexiness
Walk Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 For starters.. STOP BREAKING YOUR 'PUTER!!!! j/k. And you are sexy... a woman threw herself at you to get your contact information that had only talked to you for barely 10 minutes. If that ain't your sexy power in play, then I don't know what is. However, I'd rather have a guy give me space to know him better before going out. IF.. I just met him. I get scared that he'll be serial rapist or murder me. And I DON'T give out my phone number to a total stranger! I've had men stalk me for months. There's some crazy people out there. However, I don't stand them up for dates if I agree to them, and then make lame excuses for why I didn't show. Well, I did when I was a lot younger, but that was because I didn't know how to say no to someone. I'd just run and hide. I think a little of what Alpha says is true, (a little). I think the women where he lives are more desperate for men. And he's dealing with older women, so any thing that has a penis that still moves is a catch!
Author noclobber Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 And you are sexy... a woman threw herself at you to get your contact information that had only talked to you for barely 10 minutes. If that ain't your sexy power in play, then I don't know what is. i am definitely taking this as a compliment However, I'd rather have a guy give me space to know him better before going out. IF.. I just met him. I get scared that he'll be serial rapist or murder me. And I DON'T give out my phone number to a total stranger! I've had men stalk me for months. There's some crazy people out there. if i take the time Walk then either she will put me in the friendzone or i will just be spending my time and then listen to her say "oh i only appreciate you as a friend" or "i cannot date you b'cos u r not jewish".. ooohhh brings me pleasant memories... enuff said
Neptune Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 noclobber, This is the type of gal that someone like Alpha Male finds credibility. She was there for the taking but that is not you. And probably a good thing. There are different types of men and there are different types of women. You have to excel at being you. This gal was on a different frequency than you. You could spend the rest of your life trying to get somewhere with such women. Or, you can learn to be you. I think that you will never be a player. And probably a good thing. Just keep on track trying to find a real girlfriend. You definitely will cross paths with many such women as you have recently encountered in the process. THAT IS NORMAL. When that begins to feel like just part of a process rather than something that throws you for a loop, you are getting there. That is the way it is. Really, it has not cost you much more that some dashed hopes and short term inconvienience.
whichwayisup Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 I just read all the posts, so I'm changing my original reply. The red flags were there, yet you still asked her out. Why?? lol. Anyway, she is probably too high maitenance for you, you don't need that crazyness in your life!
Author noclobber Posted December 18, 2005 Author Posted December 18, 2005 I just read all the posts, so I'm changing my original reply. The red flags were there, yet you still asked her out. Why?? lol. Anyway, she is probably too high maitenance for you, you don't need that crazyness in your life! the red flags were there????? sorry i didn't understand... i had only like around 10 minutes of conversation and by the end she asked my email.. we exchanged emails and then i got her number.. i later called her up for a date and she didn't show up. she not showing up was the only red flag... she then gave excuses but i am already done with her..
whichwayisup Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 Sorry my mistake. just an additional info.. as soon as i received the first email from her i knew something was wrong .. b'cos she had the written the entire email in capital letters... not a big deal but i think its unusual... (all her subsequent emails where in caps too). I thought that was how she emailed you the very first time. Not after you called and she didn't show up. Oops. Sorry 'bout that, eh! Yup she probably realized WHY am I putting myself out there for a guy when I'm going to be busy with Med school etc. Who knows wtf went through her head. Keep looking! There is a normal gal out there for you!
Author noclobber Posted December 18, 2005 Author Posted December 18, 2005 Sorry my mistake. I thought that was how she emailed you the very first time. Not after you called and she didn't show up. Oops. Sorry 'bout that, eh! Yup she probably realized WHY am I putting myself out there for a guy when I'm going to be busy with Med school etc. Who knows wtf went through her head. Keep looking! There is a normal gal out there for you! no problem.. cheers
mrB2006 Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 What happened to you noclobber really sucks. I would just brush this off. It really is a shame someone would actually do that to another person. You'll be ok. mrB
Recommended Posts