stevestunts Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 ahhhhhhh yes im crushing! and im 29 yrs of age,,, is this right??? well after 3.5 month of being single and just hanging out with people... i've met someone at work who is certainly a potential "girl of my dreams". extremely funny (we just mesh with the wit) absolutely cute and it just seems the more i talk with her the more we surprise each other with interests (music, skiing, traveling, art etc.) and views. its "refreshing" as she puts it and i couldn't agree more. i have alot of girlfreinds and im thinking she has alot of guy freinds too, which is totally cool by me cus (a) im not the jealous type and (b) i understand the value of having good friends of the opposite sex, i think its healthy. so after a night of just cleaning off our cars of snow we chatted for a good hr and a half about just silliness and relationships..... and then BAM 15 minutes later she called me again just to talk more i guess which was nice but we started joking around about me being a man-whore... which is fine.... cus we can have fun with it but i decided i have to cut this convo off short. now after this night i thought that i might have ventured into the "freinds zone" just cause im a bit off the wall at times but in a playful manner and of course the # of women i've dated in the last 2 yrs was a bit of a shock to her, 15 to be exact.. i think the # is relevant damnit! anyways, the next day she sent me a mail explaining that she doesn't care how many women i've dated and what the situations where, its none of her business she said. she just wants me to honest about what im up too and my what my intensions are cus she dosen't want to be disappointed. it was a long mail.... basically she wants all the cards on the table and she also gave me some freindly advise why maybe some other dating experinces haven't worked out for me ( cus women don't know where they stand with me and hence get very insecure ). i don't even know if i have a question here! lol!.... i guess im just wondering is she interested in more then friends??? (sorry im a bit blonde at this) the end of my response to her long mail was...."im just getting to know you and im totally liking what i see and hear. i guess i have to admit that im crushing on you and for many good reasons!!!... if you could see yourself through my eyes Andrea then you would know why im crushing so bad" its like highschool all over again!!! but man when im in the hallway talking to her its like nothing else phases me. She's gold and certainly a dreamgirl i've been looking for....... throw in your 2cents guys&gals! this is a great site btw
LN8840K Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 I think she wants to know where she stands with you because she can't read you playa. decide what " you " want and go for it. Or fasten your seat belt and get ready for every game she has in an attempt to figure out what you really want and eventual destruction of the relationship.
Author stevestunts Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 LN8840K eventual destruction of the relationship!? are you kidding me... that is actaully the last thing i want to happen which ever way this goes... i don't meet women like her everyday so this girl is precious to me. so your saying i should say more then what ive said already? that wasn't clear enuff? i disagree with her advice about "women not knowing where they stand with me hence making them insecure." i treat every women im involved with sexually or not with the utmost respect and always let them know that im exclusively only interested in them. if they can't see that its not my problem really and im sorry it happens that way. i mentioned this to her. i guess what im saying is i've haven't crushed on someone in years and its actually a absolutely amazing feeling....and believe me im going for it.... i just want to make sure she's into a relationship and not a freindship thats all.
LN8840K Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 Hey Playa, No, I'm not kidding. Go for the kiss if you want to know if you're in the friend zone or not ! I think you should stop talking and emailing and make a move already, then see where it goes, analysis leads to paralysis. Don't disagree with what she's telling you, she's telling you what she see's whether you see it the same or not. The games start when they can't read you and are desperate for answers, maybe the jealousy game or perhaps she cuts contact down, then you get confused and pull away then she steps up the games or maybe says oh well he's not interested .....and the relationship is done ................. sound familiar ? ? ? ? ? of course I could be completely wrong but every women I have ever dated tells me " I can't read you " and the pattern is always the same. It's up to you playa
LN8840K Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 another thing playa cut this out "im just getting to know you and im totally liking what i see and hear. i guess i have to admit that im crushing on you and for many good reasons!!!... if you could see yourself through my eyes Andrea then you would know why im crushing so bad" you're idealizing her and putting her on a pedestal and 1 of 3 things are going to happen 1. she will want to keep feeling that way, and knows she is not all that and won't let you see the real her by keeping you at an arms length 2. you will confuse her because a lot of talk is going on but you're not making a move and she will stop listening 3. she won't believe it and figure you're just wanting something from her save the fluff talk for later in the relationship when you really know her
travellingman Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 GO FOR IT!!! and please keep us up to date on what happens
Author stevestunts Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 playa?.... wow, you got me wrong mate. 2years ago i came outa a amazing relationship of 6years so i think i just needed to see whats out there. thats not playing... thats looking and experiencing. nothing wrong with that. i like your input though, and i see what your saying about putting here on a petestal... but in reality she deserves it. she's dated some real pieces of work by the sounds of it so im just putting her where she needs to be i believe and most importantly wher i think she is. cheers i will keep you posted as im off to see her tomorrow and hopefully once before the holidays which she will be away for with her folks til after newyears. i WILL miss her dearly.
RecordProducer Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 She definitely likes you. She just doesn't want to be one of many girls in your life. It's your job to reassure her that she is different. My husband has had many (I mean MANY!) women in his life, but he was so into me from the very beginning that I didn't care how many he has had in the past. That's where they will remain. So be sweet and honest with her and she will trust you and surrender to you. A little bit of chasing won't harm you!
kitkat826 Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 I agree that it sounds like she likes you. I would make a move...if she gives you the runaround, then its a sign that its not meant to be. I don't really see you as putting her on a pedestal in a negative way...I think its a natural way of reacting when you really, truly like someone and click with them. Of course, it could not work out for many reasons, from a girls point of view, this one looks like its a least worth the chance.
FataMorgana Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 She definitely likes you. She just doesn't want to be one of many girls in your life. It's your job to reassure her that she is different. So be sweet and honest with her and she will trust you and surrender to you. A little bit of chasing won't harm you! totally agree with RP here. that's exactly how I read what she wrote as well. I say go for it as well, good luck as it sounds like you really like her
Author stevestunts Posted December 18, 2005 Author Posted December 18, 2005 RecordProducer > kitkat826 > FataMorgana thanks for your encouragement... im definitely excited to see her tonight! i'll be doing my damnest to show her that she is absolutely different from anyone else i've met... THAT will actually be a easy! i'll give an update for sure cheers
Author stevestunts Posted December 20, 2005 Author Posted December 20, 2005 well i had one of the best dates in about 8 years!!! lol she's just one of people you meet and just mesh with! lots of laughter, amazing convo and well, just a all round excellent connection which i was expecting! when you talk with someone for 5hrs straight and still not want to leave..is that a good sign? damn straight!!! i guess that next step is the kiss! it would of happened last night but i have to be a gentelmen right!..... im so looking forward to this! I think i've only dreamed of having someone so attractive, funny, extremely intelligent yet soooo down to earth. IM GLOWING!!!..........STILL! Cheers!..... all should get to feel the way i do right now
RecordProducer Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 i guess that next step is the kiss! it would of happened last night but i have to be a gentelmen right! Well played! I think i've only dreamed of having someone so attractive, funny, extremely intelligent yet soooo down to earth. Don't worry, you have plenty of time to get disappointed! JK I am happy for you, Steve!
Author stevestunts Posted December 21, 2005 Author Posted December 21, 2005 plenty of time to get disappointed huh!.... bah! not anytime soon! its crazy how this happened when i least expected it. i guess it makes it that much sweeter! thanks RP!
FataMorgana Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 well i had one of the best dates in about 8 years!!! lol I think i've only dreamed of having someone so attractive, funny, extremely intelligent yet soooo down to earth. IM GLOWING!!!..........STILL! Cheers!..... all should get to feel the way i do right now Great to hear Steve! so happy for you, lovely post to read, good for you so when are you seeing the lovely lady again...to start working on that kissing situation keep us posted, so nice to hear about someone's happiness from time to time as well
littlekitty Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 well i had one of the best dates in about 8 years!!! lol she's just one of people you meet and just mesh with! lots of laughter, amazing convo and well, just a all round excellent connection which i was expecting! when you talk with someone for 5hrs straight and still not want to leave..is that a good sign? damn straight!!! i guess that next step is the kiss! it would of happened last night but i have to be a gentelmen right!..... im so looking forward to this! I think i've only dreamed of having someone so attractive, funny, extremely intelligent yet soooo down to earth. IM GLOWING!!!..........STILL! Cheers!..... all should get to feel the way i do right now Ahh congrats! It's so nice to hear about a nice guy, trying to do the right thing, and reaping his reward! We all need to hear about a bit of love every now and then! You actually really remind me of my gorgeous partner! He was, and still is, just as excited to have met me! And I him, of course!
Author stevestunts Posted December 23, 2005 Author Posted December 23, 2005 littlekitty & FataMorgana im off to see her tomorrow night... and then she's off with her parents and relatives for 2 weeks!...AHHHHHHH!!! i will miss her dearly! im just going to get in as much hug & kisses in as possible tomorrow! We both are super excited about another wonderful evening together and for some reason i know there will be many many more. My god, when i see her at work its like time stands still around us... man i don't even know where i am when i see her! After we were chatting the other night i gave her a hug and as i was holding her i could hear her swallow and i just melted into her...she was blushing big time after that so i just held her hands for a bit and smiled.... its like were little kids again!! ok enuff of the mushy stuff.... this is just crazy!!!.... please tell me im sane! again many thanks for the encouragement! (you'll probally see me back here complaining how much i miss her next week!)
Author stevestunts Posted December 30, 2005 Author Posted December 30, 2005 Well i have a big problem!!!... the love of my life is on a cruise with her family and im having a hard time getting in contact with her!!!.... has hotmail ever went all funny on you before??? i sent her a long email tuesday night and got this back last night (wed) !!! HEy Steve, * Im sad not to see an email*from you. <Hope everything is good with you. I got anxious yesterday and check as well..................boooooo............ * Today we were at sea, tomorrow we will be in Jamaica. I miss you more when I see couples all happy together, especially the europeans.....when they get all touchy touch with each other! * Anyways, I hope that this is all genuine bc I haven t been this happy in a long time, and <i like the way you make me feel. It would hurt me a lot if you were playing me. It just all seems too perfect with you, that I am scared that it will all just blow up in front of me. * check in later, im seriously losing sleep over this!!!! help! cus i sent her 2 mails already last night and no reply back! sorry im venting
travellingman Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 has hotmail ever went all funny on you before??? I recently found some important e-mails in the spam folder. Now I don't dump it without checking through the msg headers.
johan Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 That sucks. She should understand though. Hope she gets back soon.
Author stevestunts Posted December 30, 2005 Author Posted December 30, 2005 ya its sucks... hotmail sucks really, i hope she get them.. cus i know she abit dissappointed not seeing a mail from me i sleepless night i think........ boooooooooooo!!!
Author stevestunts Posted December 30, 2005 Author Posted December 30, 2005 sorry for the jilted post... im a bit flustered over here
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