Woggle Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 So a woman should stay married if she's being abused? . No offense but did you read what I posted?
Outcast Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 Yes. Did you? I would say to men never get involved with a woman who left her husband for any reason other than divorce or infidelity. Only infidelity and 'divorce'??? are acceptable reasons for a woman to leave a man? There are many reasons a man might be worth divorcing.
Woggle Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 Yes. Did you? Only infidelity and 'divorce'??? are acceptable reasons for a woman to leave a man? There are many reasons a man might be worth divorcing. I apologize it was a typo. What I meant to type was abuse and infidelity. Pardon me it is late at night and I can't sleep so I wasn't thinking clearly. I am not trying to say what is and is not acceptable but I have very high standards for a woman that I will commit to. Now I have found my queen so I am out of the game but for men still in the game I have a few pointers. What i mean is that if a woman will throw away a marriage for trivial reasons she will do it to another man as well. People tend to have patterns and they repeat themselves.
Author smile95 Posted December 18, 2005 Author Posted December 18, 2005 Well, let's just hope that if i decide to date a dov man, he will be the one who left his wife becasue she was just awful! The last guy I dated told me it was all her and found out later that was SO NOT TRUE. I know that there are good people in this world that have divorced. I did not mean to imply that. I just hope that if i end up with one, it is one like the men on this post who seem to have their heads on straight.
Woggle Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 Divorce can be a blessing in disguise. I want to thank my ex for cheating on me because everything started going better in my life after that.
reader Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 I agree, there are patterns that you might want to look for. If you take your time and get to know them, you'll see the pattern eventually. Time helps with this. I believe Drs run amnio tests starting at age 29. I wouldn't worry too much. You'll meet someone, when it is right. Would I get involved with someone who has/children, or was married before? I would get to know them and see how it is. If you start out as friends, and see how they get along with their children, what they say about their ex, you'll know. I don't know that I would cross someone off immediately, but, I can see why you would be cautious. And yes, I know that a lot of people hide this kind of thing until much later in the relationship. My husband was never married and has no children. The lack of experience made things harder for us - I have two children from my first marriage. But, we all try and honestly, he has more baggage from his family than I do from my first marriage, so everyone is different. Good luck. I think you will be just fine.
JS17 Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 Well, let's just hope that if i decide to date a dov man, he will be the one who left his wife becasue she was just awful! The last guy I dated told me it was all her and found out later that was SO NOT TRUE. Divorces, much like breakups, are never "because of" one person. It takes two people to get in it and two people to get out of it. 1
Author smile95 Posted December 18, 2005 Author Posted December 18, 2005 I guess a div is just like a breakup with paperwork. However, beacause I am catholic, I cannot marry someone who has been div(at least in a catholic church) unless he goes thru the annulment process and that is a lot to go thru and involves his ex as well to agree. I guess each case is diffrent and the bottom line is I just have to get to know them...prob should have been a red flag for me when my ex never even told me he had kids until I found out 2 months later! yikes! At least I know what to look for!
Author smile95 Posted December 18, 2005 Author Posted December 18, 2005 I believe Drs run amnio tests starting at age 29. I wouldn't worry too much. You'll meet someone, when it is right. This may be a dumb question, but I do not know the answer...so I am asking. When a woman has her egss"frozen" does this mean they take a younger egg, freeze it til you are ready and implant it back in you? So if I did this, i could have a healthy baby as if I were having it when I was 30 when I may be 40? Or am I wrong in my assumption? I think a family and children has been my dream for so long that I am so focused on it that it becomes even more of a let down that I am not there yet. I am sure I will meet someone someday, but it sometimes gets me down. Also, my father is so wonderful that no one really matches him in my mind. He is one of a kind!
Outcast Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 However, beacause I am catholic, I cannot marry someone who has been div(at least in a catholic church) unless he goes thru the annulment process and that is a lot to go thru and involves his ex as well to agree. Last I heard, the Catholic church gets around that rather conveniently; if he wasn't married in the Catholic church to start off with, then he wasn't 'really' married anyway so doesn't need an annulment. When a woman has her egss"frozen" does this mean they take a younger egg, freeze it til you are ready and implant it back in you? So if I did this, i could have a healthy baby as if I were having it when I was 30 when I may be 40? Or am I wrong in my assumption? It is my understanding that this is the case but if you are approaching 30 and want to know, call your local fertility clinic and ask them just to be sure.
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