Oopswithanxj Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 I was wondering what you think. I have been dating someone for just over 2 yrs now and everything was going great untill about 3 mos ago. We have talked about getting married and we both love the idea,house after,buttttt. The way we live and are going to end up living is different. I have been trying to actually mold myself to fit in her ways but its not working very well. I am going to start with school agian this summer. It's just going to be hard with class and 2 jobs and everything. i want to break it off with her....but!!!...scared. i dont wanna lose her. I know there is really no such thing as a good break up and all. I just wanna know what you think. She is my bestfriend and i lover her to death. its hard! Jay
itwontdawnsooner Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 you shouldn't mold yourself to fit anything. compromise is one thing, but she has to do it too. if she cant, and you feel breaking up is the thing to do, there is no right way to do it other than to be respectful, mature and direct. this is one of the hardest things youll ever have to do in your life, emotionally
starblitz Posted December 22, 2005 Posted December 22, 2005 Towards the end of my relationship that just ended I did feel that I was molding more than being compromised with... Yes, when we started the relationship and everything was rosy, compromise was one of the major thing in the relationship, with us not being from the same background/race/culture. We compromised a lot of things to be with each other and at the end, he decided that he doesn't want to be committed anymore because he doesn't think that relationships should require us to compromise a lot. I was stupid enough to stick around coz I thought we could work it through and in my heart, I know things will work it out, just like we did before I got into this relationship. Maybe it is love that has blinded me. Maybe its just my optimism reeking... And this is where it has left me. Heart-broken and depressed.
ashley83 Posted December 22, 2005 Posted December 22, 2005 I feel for you starblitz. I have live by..'love conquers all' I think if 2 love each other nothing should stand in their way, and they should compromise. Nothing will be easy! I just don't get why my ex didn't love me enough to compromise. I certainly thought he did. He did a good job of making it seem like he did.
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