saltedfish Posted December 17, 2005 Posted December 17, 2005 I broke up with my boyfriend in february, so it´s been like 11 months. We had 3,5 years relations ship were we lived together about a year (now we live in different countries). First two years were amazing, I was his first long-time girlfriend (he was 29 when we met) He would do anything for me and words were never saved. Good things: - he build a house where I could choose most of things that went in that -he would tell me everyday he loved me -he stayed home with me even if his buddied invited him to football thing -he cooked and cleaned for me "please don´t get up. I´ll clear this" -he askes my input to everything -he wanted to marry me -he helped me to take care of my sick mom But then we have downwards spiral here: -he would critize my looks in very hars way(like after having sex he would tell be to get boob job as my big breasts are sagging, he would see girl in tv and stated: she is good looking not you...ect) I tried to talk to him about this but he never stoped that, after week he would be the same, and after saying "that was fun, don´t cry, you are my first love and last love, I want to be together forever...does anyone get this? -he become addicted to porn sites, he would register to tens of those and paid lot of money, some of then really discutiong sites like "preagnent teens.." -jealosy, accusing me off lying if i didn´t remember what i talked to my male collegue that day while having lunch So if you can imagine the first part beeing 95% of time and 5% of the bad things, this was really hard break-up But my actual question, I have stated to him many times that we can remain friends but only friends. A few months pass with just friendly sms/emails, after again comes "i love you" and i tell him if he does not stop saying that i will cut all contact..again goes few months and I love you´s start. And i reply to him maybe 1/3 of his messages. now again, he sends me expencive christmass present and wants to come to see me. Do i really have to cut all contact? It feels so sad, as I would like to hear about his life and give support if needed but I really don´t have an choice.. I had a short relationship after him, and I was in love so I really don´t love him that way anymore and even a tought of his touching me makes me sick.. make my head straight again please... PS. long post, thank you for reading
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