lost/found? Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 My exgf called last night and we had a nice conversation about what is going on in our lives. I asked her if i could come home and work on the relationship with her, she said she is not ready, i then asked if she thought it would not work out and she said no because i'm not ready. Does this not imply that eventually she will be ready. Because the last few times we spoke about our relationship it sounded as if she wanted no part of it.
CaliGuy Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 It means she's confused. I would minimize contact with her and give her more time to think. If you pressure her at all to talk about the relationship you'll just force her away or force her to make a decision you probably don't want to hear. Focus on improving yourself where you can, getting out, hanging with friends, enjoying hobbies, etc. Make yourself a little aloof. Women desire men that are hard to get. Play a little hard to get
Kengne II Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 My exgf called last night and we had a nice conversation about what is going on in our lives. I asked her if i could come home and work on the relationship with her, she said she is not ready, i then asked if she thought it would not work out and she said no because i'm not ready. Does this not imply that eventually she will be ready. Because the last few times we spoke about our relationship it sounded as if she wanted no part of it. I think you're reading too much into her comments. She said she is not ready. This does not mean she will ever be ready, NOR does it mean she will never be ready. All it means is RIGHT NOW - she is not ready, period. Please do not question her again about the 'rel'ship' because it will only feel like pressure, and push her even further away. Just let things happen naturally... 1 day at a time ...and go with the flow wherever it takes you (whether back to HER, or the arms of somebody new). K.
itwontdawnsooner Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 beware holding onto the hope of things not said. she didnt say anything hopefull in my opinion, so take that as a "no" not a "not ready" one day at a time, one day at a time...
Author lost/found? Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 thanx for the feedback, i guess it is very easy to let yourself see some positive in all the confusion, but a yes is a yes and that's what it all boils down to. i must say that is really as positive as it has been for about a month. I'll let her come to me and stop chasing after scraps of hope. "when one door of happiness closes another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door we do not see the one that has been opened for us"
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