bendit Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 from The Art of Living by William Hart... "Nor do we limit attachment to the "I": we extend it to "mine," whatever belongs to us. We each develop great attachment to what we possess, because it is associated with us, it supports the image of "I". This attachment would cause no problem if what one called "mine" were eternal, and the "I" remained to enjoy it eternally. But the fact is sooner or later the "I" is separated from the "mine." The parting time is bound to come. When it arrives, the greater clinging to "mine," the greater the suffering will be." Me: Simplistically, we were attached and they weren't. Yes they possessed us like a thing, but they weren't attached to us in the same we we were to them. They were attached to us in the manner we are attached to a bedside lamp. The degree of suffering is directly related to how attached one is. Are they suffering? No? Surprise. They were never feeling you like you were feeling them. The key for next time is to love in a way in which you can stay non-attached. regards
omegaRED Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 I think the biggest problem (apart from the feeling of rejection, the blow to our pride and ego), is the loss of a person. Or, in most cases, loss of SOMETHING that we thought belonged to us. Most of us are ignorant that that something (person) does not belong to us, until it`s too late. Most of us cannot fathom the thought of our SO leaving us, because we wouldn`t leave them. I don`t know where the fine line between giving one self fully to another person in a healthy way and "posessing", "owning" another person lies. IMHO i hope it either comes naturally, or wth experience. I thought the former happened with my ex (guess again), and i do have to work on the latter.
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