Mary3 Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 I have known a few men that have said " I don't make plans " when asked if they wanted to do a specific thing . Is that because they don't make plans for fear of flakers ? ( One man said people let him down so he makes no plans with others ) Or is it : that they don't want anything past today to be planned because they don't want any further contact that suggests a future with you ? ( The casual zone ) (?) I should add that I love to make plans , looking forward to whatever,... trips, concerts ,events .. that kind of thing. Very much a Do-er !
alphamale Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 I should add that I love to make plans , looking forward to whatever,... trips, concerts ,events .. that kind of thing. Very much a Do-er ! women are planners, they have the next month planned out. Like, OK. Sat the 1st its out with the girlfirends, shopping on Thur the 12th, out with boyfriend at wedding on sat the 15th, blah blah blah. Watch Nip/Tuck on Tues nite....blah blah. men don't plan that much. a few days out at most. these women i know who run a huge singles group say that women sign up for their events 3 to 4 wks beforehand and men usually sign up the day before or the day of the event.
Author Mary3 Posted December 15, 2005 Author Posted December 15, 2005 Alpha : Is that like xmas shopping ? You know the guys are in the mall on xmas eve struggling to find gifts ? I buy mine weeks in advance lol Thanks Alpha for your answer. I really didnt know that guys didnt like to make plans , hehe
Rickymoemoe Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 I agree we guys are much more last minute then women are. But man I'm always freaking out if I don't have something planned for me and my girl. I'd love a girl I liked to make plans for us. But if I don't like her that much I don't want her making my plans for me.
Yamaha Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 Guys like to be spontaneous and don't like to make things to structured.
kitkat826 Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 Although I agree with what has been said, I have noticed as well that the men who are most adamant about not being into "plans" are also the ones who either aren't that interested or are shady daters in general. Examples: They are dating a bunch of people and you're not #1 on their list, or they have girlfriends, so they don't really know when they'll have a free night, or they just enjoy stringing you along "alpha-style" (meaning deliberately ignoring you and putting off plans so as to increase your interest and their chances of getting laid).
Kitteney Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 Although I agree with what has been said, I have noticed as well that the men who are most adamant about not being into "plans" are also the ones who either aren't that interested or are shady daters in general. Amen Sister!
Author Mary3 Posted December 16, 2005 Author Posted December 16, 2005 Well the " Alpha Style " dating turns me off and I pick up on that up right away. There are 200 books for Alpha and other men to read about how to string a girl along but us girls have figured you out already. I suspect the previous poster is right who says someone who does not want you to plan for them probrobly does not want you around them much. Go figure , lol.
runner Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 what a coincidence - i was just thinking of excuses to tell this girl why it is i never call her, and i thought: 'um, well, ya know, i really don't plan things much, bla bla bla'. i haven't actually said that (yet), but i can just imagine her trying not to let the steam out of her ears i swear, this thread could've been a Seinfeld episode.
Craig Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 I have an aversion to anyone that does not make plans or that does not like to plan.
Author Mary3 Posted December 16, 2005 Author Posted December 16, 2005 The more I read ..the more it makes sense ..that the rare few who said they didnt make plans , don't really want anything to happen in the future...
witabix Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 Well Mary, girls say the same thing you know, does it mean different things when the gender changes?
FireReady Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 Well Mary, girls say the same thing you know, does it mean different things when the gender changes? Just for ME personally, I tend to use the line, "I dont make plans" and a lot of times, it's because i really don't. But it's also because at times, I'm not sure yet, I need to get some more conversation or wahtever, see that we're on the same page It all depends on how long we've been chatting or evn known each other.
itwontdawnsooner Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 making some plans is fine, planning everything all the time is boring and trapping feeling for me
Cecelius Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 As a dating issue, it sort of depends on when they are reluctant to make plans. If you just start to date someone, you are not going to commit to all kinds of plans or things that far in the future because the girl's just not that significant yet. Some men do plan, they just don't talk about it -- it's their plan, after all.
alphamale Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 Some men do plan, they just don't talk about it -- it's their plan, after all. exactly! once word leaks out about "THE PLAN" then it is shot. Down the tubes, finito, done. I hear more women complaining about men not being spontaeous enough versus men not planning enough. Planning is boring.
witabix Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 exactly! once word leaks out about "THE PLAN" then it is shot. Down the tubes, finito, done. I hear more women complaining about men not being spontaeous enough versus men not planning enough. Planning is boring. Yep, keep the PLAN under wraps, remember the penalty guys!! We will come round your place in the middle of the night and put a rabid squirrel down your pants!!! Consider yourself warned. NB Squirrels love nuts,
kitkat826 Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 Well Mary, girls say the same thing you know, does it mean different things when the gender changes? It doesn't change the meaning behind it IMO. All the times that I have told men things along the lines of "I don't make plans", or its variations ("I don't give out my number" and "I'm really busy right now"), its because I'm really not that interested.
Author Mary3 Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 I personally like to make plans to do things. You know, something you are looking forward to...like say a trip, a concert or a cruise. It would be hard to do those things if you didn't make plans for it. I also am very spontaneous too. I love to just go do things. I admit that I say " I am not sure , I have to let you know later " :. Thats my way of thinking about a suggestion someone has made to do something. I just don't recall saying " I don't make plans " lol, because that would not be true. I appreciate all the different suggestions everyone has given.
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