Just Worried Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 This is my situation....... I want to get married too. My boyfriend and I of 2 years have bought a house together and we own a very busy sign making business. We are exactly where we want to be in life, but for me there is one thing missing, the ring. Well, as you know it is almost Christmas and I accidentally came accross a reciept from a jewellery store ( I do know it's for me) a ring. But the problem is, is that it's a fashion ring NOT an engagement ring. I just do not understand why he would buy me a ring without any intentions of asking the question. We getted bugged all the time about marriage and kids and he knows it bothers me very much, but we have never really sat down and discussed mariage. My problem is, is that I DO NOT want this ring if it's no the real thing. The reason is......can you imagine how I will get bothered again with a ring on my finger that doesn't mean anything at all?. How do I tell him on Christmas day that I don't want the ring? Or should I talk to him before?
JayKay Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 I am rather curious as to why you bought a house together if you didn't talk about a future together? And, as I understand, you also own a business together? How did that conversation happen? "Hey hon, let's buy a house together. Let's start a business together," but NO discussion of the future? Hey look, you don't HAVE to be married to be happy in my book. But if that's seriously what you want, be upfront with him. Just make sure it's what you BOTH want. Don't get married because people bug you about it. That's the worst reason to get married.....peer pressure! Get married when you are both ready. Perhaps he is saving up for the REAL ring. And I wouldn't snub your Xmas gift. That would be very hurtful. Act happy when you get it. Then pehaps a week later say, "Hey, since you've got rings on your mind...." and bring up the topic.
Author Just Worried Posted December 16, 2005 Author Posted December 16, 2005 Thank you, I guess the reason that we bought a house together and have a business together without talking about marriage is because I thought that if we have all this it would just be the next best thing to happen, is marriage. Anyway, you're definitely right about the whole peer pressure thing. It's awful! I wish I didn't let things like that bother me. I love him with all my heart and I felt that talking to him about marriage would scare him away, and I also thought that we just would never have to talk about it because it was going to happen soon. Anyway, I am going to accept this ring as a very thoughtful gift without hurting his feelings. I guess I should just be ahppy with what I have.
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