Advice needed. After 2.5 months she contacts me once every while....

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we broke up before 2.5 months with the excse that she wanted to be alone and that she feels that something is missing from our relationship. Its been a rolllercost for us in the last 6 months.

 

This is the 3rd time she dumps me and its like whenever we get close to each other she gets scared and backs off.

 

The thing that annoys me is that 1 month before the breakup she was telling me that she feels differnt for me now than other times and that she doesnt want to seperate with me again, and that she wants to spend her life with me. Well i believed it at the time but a period came and she was feeling again suffocated and told me to broke up.

 

This time i realized that i cannot continue with this relationship and decided to go to no contact and leave her completely alone. I am trying to move on with my life and is very very hard as i really love her. Every day i am thinking about her every second that passes i am missing her.

 

During these 2.5 months i did one two mistakes. I onnce tried to kiss her but she didnt allowed it and one other day i ve sent her a txt message saying that i still love her with no rensponce from her. Well we all learn from our mistakes and stopped completely contacting her. So during these 2 moths she did try to contact me with txt messages and i did run to her 2-3 times by chance. i acted cool and very friendly towards her like nothing ever happened.

 

Today she send me a txt message after 13 days of no contact asking me how i am and we ended having 9-10 casual txt messages. the tone was friendly from both of us. she even invited me to go to a club she is going on Friday cause she missed me.

 

Well these are my questions: What does this mean? Should i go to the club on Friday or just continue being unavailable and dissapear from her life completely. i dont want to stuck being only friends with her as i really love her and cant stand the pain of seing her with other males. Why she stills contacting me? it is not very often like every 12-15 days but it triggers my hope and prevent me from moving on. Should i continue answering back and being friendly towarrds her? she did broke my heart. Is she coming slowly back or she just tries to be friends with me again?

 

Bear in mind that i was her first bf( and lover) and she is 23 years old!!!so obviously she has a problem with a coomited relationship. i know that i cannot proceed with a person like this but i am willing to do anything to change it. i really really believe that she is the "one" but something keeps her away from me.

 

Please advice me as i am very confused from her behaviour. When an ex some times continue to contact you what does it mean and how the dumpee must behave.. I really want to win her back an try once and for all to solve all of her commited related issues.

 

Thnxs in advance

Ps sorry for my bad english

[saltnshake]

Just take everything real easy.. She is obviously ambitious and is getting scared about having a long term relationship, which may cramp her style.. Try playing hard to get for a while, it's difficult I know but just do it. Let her make the moves on you. That way you won't get hurt if your in control.

 

If you do get back with her don't wrap her up in cotton wool, and make her feel smothered. Keep the phone calls and texts down.

 

Hope it works out for you.

[itwontdawnsooner]

you cant solve her issues. she has to do that. its up to you if you want to keep going with the cycle, if you think something can change. nothing is set in stone, but you can't control other people. you can love someone who isnt right for you. its a sick world, but it happens. i dont know the situation, so i cant say of course, but from what youve written, she has to sort herself out and its up to you how much you want to push when she's trying to do that.