caring guy Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 Ok so i feel a bit lame asking this because when you realy like someone, you can be a little blind to signal & i know i am! I've met this girl on a dating site, she's in my town, she is from another country, hasn't too many friends here. She is gorgeous & chatty & talks a lot, but her English isn't the best which i think is a good ice breaker! We went out yesterday, met in town, shopped, had coffee, she complimented me saying that a couple of guys she's chatted to online were jerks & that it was nice to be with me, as we both like to shop! Her profile says this: Friendship, maybe more romance sports & activity partner LTR filthy fun When we parted yesterday i gave her a kiss on both cheeks (face), which made her blush a little, but thats the latin in me! We chatted a lot on the phone last night, i'm showing lots of interest in her, her country & the "relationship" issue hasn't been talked of yet. Tonight we're having dinner! Do i keep the talk friendly, do i say what i feel, what i want, flatter her etc! or should i wait for her to initiate the subject, but then by doing this i could miss my chance! She has a fiew minor issues to do with work of which i'm helping her with, i don't feel i'm just a friendly guy that she's using to help her out, she didn't want me to go last night when i leaft her at the station, but i had college to go to! At what stage should i take it further, should i just try read the signs or give her the signs! I know i can sometimes appear rushy into things, but then again we did meet on a DATING site & she does want to see more of me! But i don't want to be like those jerks that obviously wanted sex, but i don't want to give off the impression i'm just a friendly guy, i need to make her know i fancy her & want to be in a loyal, being there, relationship! Any tips would be grateful CG
Devildog Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 There are a number of signals women give off to show interest. One consideration is the country she is from though. Is the culture more strict about dating and physical intimacy? Find out about that first and foremost. Something that might not be a big deal in our society might be a huge insult to her culture. Otherwise, playing with her hair is an indication of interest. Licking her lips is a big one as far as showing desire for a kiss. Actually, just about anything involving her lips is a hint. If she tends to re-apply lip gloss or lipstick. She is wanting you to notice her lips, and think about her lips, and hopefully get the hint to kiss them. Also, does she lean towards you when you talk. This is also a sign of interest.
Author caring guy Posted December 15, 2005 Author Posted December 15, 2005 Come to think of it Devil dog, she did apply lip moisturiser a lot, but then again it was windy & cold. We sat in a coffee shop & she faced me with her legs, but most of all, she kept deliberately banging into me & touching my arm whilst we shopped! It was funny because she needed something electrical & it was a struggle explaining it all & it lightened it all up! It's only our second time seeing each other today, so maybe i'm being a bit forward! She's from one of the old Soviet breakaway countrys, ! CG
Devildog Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 but most of all, she kept deliberately banging into me & touching my arm whilst we shopped! Big sign of interest. Women find excuses to make physical contact if they are interested. Stand very close to you in public. Things like that. She definetly sounds interested and attracted. At the end of your date today, hold her in your arms, face to face. Watch for any slight head tilt to the side, like she is preparing to be kissed. If she doesn't make any signs of turing away, move forward to kiss her. You will have an answer then. If she turns a cheek to accept the kiss, which I doubt from what you said, she isn't there.
Rickymoemoe Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 Hey I just wanted to drop a note on women from the old Soviet Union. I've had a few friends that have been involved with dating Russian women and others from that region. They will come on kind of strong and if they identify you as a man they want to keep they will do anything to keep you! At first I thought my friends were just finding a bunch of women looking for green cards, but its really not the truth. In these countries their is a high population of women and much lower male population some have as much a 100 women to 75 men. It also tends to be that men from these countires are real jerks so many of the women who travel overseas are looking for a husband. Be the nice guy I say, she'll latch onto you in no time if she really likes you.
Author caring guy Posted December 18, 2005 Author Posted December 18, 2005 Devildog & Rickymoemoe The date went great & we talked a lot, we chatted on the phone the previous night too. Joked about me joining her on her trip home & she said i could! Didn't know wether if she was joking though! Before dinner we walked around town & talked a lot & yes, she gave me a huge snog after i said how i'd imagined being with her in her country! Before the kiss, we were sat in a nice place in town & i told her i thought she was ace & this 6th sense i have told me this! We walked some more & she we more or less said we were officially dating! We went to a nice restaurant, my face was lit up & after we went back to mine as she missed her last bus! We talked until 5am, & retired to bed! Voila! Yes, she has said guys in her country are jerks. I listened to her, showed interest & we have spent 3 days together, walking in the country, hand in hand & kissing & sex has happened a lot, she says she fancys me, but she has said it all has happened very fast! & i think so too, but i don't care!!. But i do get concerned about what i sometimes do & push it too far. She wants a fiew days on her own now & get back down to earth a little for both of us, i guess only i can mess up! if i push & pressure for more too soon! She maybe moving south in Feb (job) & that concerns me, but who knows i'm off to hers in January for a short trip. I fall easily & i'm in the clouds at the moment & it's great! I always seem to need reassurance & to know where i am! She is a strong independent person as most from this aprt of the world have had to be, upbringing etc! I know playing it cool now is the best, give her the time she needs, she fancys me as she's said & we've had a good time & i make her laugh like nobody has since she's been here, so i guess it's going better than i expected! Any advice appreciated though, i think she does want to be with me LT but it's still going too fast & needs to slow down, but i'm at 100mph at the moment;)
runner Posted December 19, 2005 Posted December 19, 2005 CG, you need no advice. but since you asked...from here on all you two need are lots of open, honest communication, stay true to yourselves and you should be fine. congrats
Author caring guy Posted December 19, 2005 Author Posted December 19, 2005 Cheers Runner I think we all need advice! I've just spent 3 of the best days of my life with a romantic beautiful girl i only met a week ago & i'm having withdrawls:laugh: I'm in love i think, but i can't tell her, she just makes me sway around! I shall see her Thursday, feel like texting her to say goodnight, even though she said we need to get back down to earth! I get these feeling of yes & no as obviously i can't push her! She says as she brought me to her house where she stays & met her (English mum) & that i'm going to her country with her is something she hasn't done & wouldn't, it must mean that i'm in her heart, but she can't tell me she loves me or we are bf & gf yet, maybe that is a tease, i dunno! Hey, it's been 5 days, what am i saying here! I call her darling & sweetheart already, she occasionaly calls me darling & yet i don't know the score, or i think i do (imagine). I guess it's the scenario of 'in fast, out fast' & vica versa! Maybe now i should let her miss me! over the next fiew days, let her contact me! I just don't wanna mess this up, as i & only i can do with my pushyness! Cheers CG 1
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