Discogrl Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 Hello, I am in a situation that I need some good advice on. This is pretty long, so bear with me. I work with this guy who I am seriously falling for in a big way! The problem is I can't tell if he feels the same because of his mixed signals! I met him a few months ago and we hit it off really well as friends, well we started flirting with eachother and eventually agreed to meet for lunch before work. We started going to lunch periodically and we always had a great time talking and stuff, but there was never no physical contact between us -we never hugged,kissed,held hands --Nadda!! So in my head I came to the conclusion that he just wanted to be friends and left it at that. Well a month or so goes by (lunches,flirting at work) and I'm over my girlfriends house and I'm telling her about him, so she suggests that I invite him over to her place to hang out-He did, and this is where it gets confusing!! Me and him are sitting on the couch, when out of nowhere he grabs me and starts kissing me!! We ended up in my friends bedroom where we made out on the verge of having sex. I stopped him because the whole situation was too weird(my friends bed,her in the other room!!)he asked me if I wanted to leave and go get a room for the night? I reluctantly declined saying that I needed to get home, but told him that I would meet him the following day before work if he wanted--He agreed!! Well the next day comes and I'm nervous as hell!! But that didn't stop me from having sex numerous times with him before it was time to go into work:o. Since then we have been meeting up on a weekly basis for Lunch/Sex and we have a great time together. The thing is, I don't know if I can do this anymore. At first I was cool with the whole "Friends with Benefits" thing, but now the more I see him the more I find myself liking and falling for him, and I'm starting to feel used! I'm also very confused because we'll hook up and things will be great we'll hug, kiss, hold hands, act like a couple, then he won't call me for days and I find myself always being the one to call him-- the only time he seems to call me is when I don't call him--It's like a friggin' game!! Not to mention, when I see him at work he continues to flirt with me and act like he likes me!! My question is--How do I go about telling him that I want more out of this? Is is possible to start a relationship on sex? Will/Does he respect me? Help!! He's all I can think about!!
Rickymoemoe Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 Ah sweetheart you made a big mistake. Your nothing to him but a booty call now. Chances he probably has a realgirlfriend on the side. Having sex with a guy the first time you go out is a disaster. As for respect he has little to none for you. Why would he? You had sex with him the first time you met outside work. EASY!. That's all he's thinking about you. I'm not saying you can't pull a relationship you'll both enjoy out of this, but for a relationship based on mutal respect and trust your dreaming girl. This ladies is the prime example of not what to do if you like a guy.
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