rizjet04 Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 so i met this girl at work... shes awesome... we were acquaintances for couple of years... kind of had crushes on one another from a distance... then finally at the end of this past summer we exchanged numbers and started dating for the last few weeks before i went to school... we both decided together that we wanted to make it official before i went to school... yes... we agreed on an LDR after three weeks of dating... mostly non-physical dating everything was going awesome for almost three months... it was moving quickly... but we were both totally cool with it... we talked about it because it kind of scared us both how intense we were for each other... but we talked it out and we just decided to take it week by week... and enjoy each other... being apart was tough... but everything was perfect when we finally got to see each other every couple of weeks or so for a weekend... eventually... it became apparent that she was conflicted between being in love and enjoying being single... she loved me... i believe legitimately... im positive i was the best boyfriend she ever had... at least regarding the way i treated her.. and being understanding and considerate... she didnt have the cleanest past or the best track record with boyfriends... but i saw promise and it was utterly blissful when we were together... and we both agreed on this... its not like it was just one-sided so anyways... we both came home for turkey day... and i go over her house to spend the day... and as soon as i get there she's acting a little funny... not as talkative or as affectionate... but shes talkative to her family or when she gets a phone call... its like something it on her mind now ive left out a few things... we had a fight the night before... about her not wanting me to meet some of her friends because theyre guys and she didnt want me to feel uncomfortable because theyre all affectionate... but the fight ended that night and she told me she loved me and couldnt wait to see me... and she told me to come over her house the next day anyways... i was at her house for like five hours... and she was acting all funny... saying she was bored and stuff... so i suggested we go for a walk... and on the walk she says shes sorry shes acting funny but she thinks shes done... with me... with the relationship altogether i was taken aback.. it was completely out of the blue... and she basically just said she was done... she didnt feel like putting the effort in anymore... and she thought we said i love you too early... all that stuff that was like 3 weeks ago... i havent talked to her... and though im a little better than i was at the time of the breakup... i still feel curious... she was always a very indecisive person... and im still wondering if theres hope even though we arent talking at the moment... xmas break is coming up soon and i would really love to hang out with her... alone if possible just to see what the deal between us is my neighbor is a mutual friend of ours and he's having a big new years' party... we were both invited when we were going out and i know she'll be there... should i go? if i do how should i act? should i try to hang out with her before the party? if i do that should i bring up relationship stuff? i need some guidance... should i just try to avoid contact with her altogether? gahh help
cynicalnlove Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 Ok, this reminded of me in my situation with my ex. although I had loved him tremendously, i didn't want to be with him because he didn't live up to the expectations. Perhaps the butterflies and chemistry is gone for her and she wanted to fool herself to believe that it is still there, and forced herself to stay because in ways she did love you, but I'm questioning if she is in love with you. So now when she's around you, she'll try to force herself to feel it but becomes extremely upset when she doesn't... Thus pushing you away.
Author rizjet04 Posted December 16, 2005 Author Posted December 16, 2005 i dont really need to know why she doesnt love me anymore... if that is the case... i mean i think she made a mistake breaking up with me but thats her loss i guess... my question is what to do and how to act when i see her again? and should i try to see her before the party... like a one on one? or should i not go at all? or should i go but avoid her? i guess the whole worry seems kind of dumb... but i dont want to get depressed at the party... and on the other hand maybe hanging out at the party might spark things up again... i want to act naturally but i also want to consider how seeing her at a party would make me feel... i want to be in control
riobikini Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 At the end of summer, she was swept away in that fast-moving flurry of emotions, activity, and simply the excitement of a new relationship. But it's life span was merely no more than that of a Fourth of July bottle rocket that sped to the sky, burst into bright mushroom of sparkling color and fizzled to the earth, it's remains only to be tossed into the nearest trash can. But it made your face glow for awhile as it lit up the darkness, didn't it? There are more Fourth of July's on the calendar....and one of the 'fireworks' will be a REAL rocket one day, man. Don't climb aboard the small stuff. Just enjoy the ride. -Rio
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