Am i wrong?

[crazigurl4lyfe]

As i said in my one entry on another area, i'm bi and my parents aren't necessarily accepting of it... and my parents don't want me being bi, and b/c i'm 14 almost 15 they can still tell me what to do... but b/c my parents don't like it, am i wrong for being it? I mean it's not really something i can control, it just happened... and part of the reasons i think i am this is b/c of my past and b/c my father's just an ass, and i stopped trusting guys... so am i really wrong for being bi? What should i do? If i were to talk to my parents about this, how can i bring it up? am i wrong for not wanting kids when my mom wants me to? please give me some input...

~*Heather*~

[Walk]

There's nothing wrong with being bi. As long as you don't wrap your whole identity up in it. What I mean by that is, being bi-sexual, lesbian, or straight, is just a part of what makes up the bigger picture of who someone is. As much as your parents may not want you to be bi, they don't get to choose.

 

Do you have someone you feel comfortable talking to where you live? The school councilor always helped me out when I was your age.

 

As far as your parents wanting you to have kids... You're 14. Why the hell they should be concerned about your having kids or not is immature of them. You've got your whole life in front of you, and not having kids is just as valid a life, as having kids. That's another choice they can't make for you! It's your body, and your choice... if in 10 years you choose to have kids, great, if not, equally great. But being bi has no bearing on that. Even if you were a lesbian, several I know have had children later in life.

 

Personally, I'd tell your parents to stop worrying over a future that doesn't exist yet. They can make you go to bed, they can tell you to do your homework, but your sexual preference and reproduction are yours and yours alone. No one can tell you what you should, or shouldn't do, concerning those.

 

I would really suggest talking to your school councilor, or someone at church (if you go), or if you have a teacher you trust, these boards help too. I think you could really use another adult figure in your life who can help you with your parents. Someone who, if needed, could step in and possibly talk to your parents if it gets too much for you.

 

Your main focus should be school. Getting a good education, and becoming the best person you can be. Whatever sexual preference you decide. You have about 3 years until you can be independent. It's hard enough to make ends meet in the "real" world, but without a good education you'll live in poverty the rest of your life. Don't let your parents dictate your future. Find the path you want to walk, and never let anyone get in your way.