kgal Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 HELP, PLEASE!!! I'm wrestling with myself. I want to write my ex. Ugh... but then I think.. what if I write and he doesn't write back? Afterall, he didn't return my email when I wrote a month ago. I'm just so sad. I miss him.. I don't know why I would miss someone who treated me as bad as he did. I am seriously going in circles with my emotions. I guess I'll try to get on and do stuff to keep my mind off of him. But there are moments (LIKE RIGHT NOW) where I can't keep the pain from sneaking back in.. and the temptation to tell him I love him still.
itwontdawnsooner Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 at this point, if he hasn't responded before, do you want to go through with him not responding again? you can still love him, but realize for your own sanity you NEED to stop. if it's meant to be, he'll find you - you'll find each other. but don't wait around for that. write a letter, and don't send it if you must. unless you really think theres a very good chance he'll respond and something will come of it, (be honest with yourself), then think of how it's going to make you feel
Author kgal Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 Thanks for your reply,, I am being honest, he won't write me back. He's probably found a new mate. I'm just so lonely, the nights are the worst. It was probably my fault for putting so much faith into the relationship.. hoping things would get better. This is the hardest thing... there are times I feel strong and I wont want to write.. but then I want to write! I dont know what to do.. but knowing myself.. I bet I wont be able to keep avoiding the feelings that continue to creep back each time I think about what happened to us. Perhaps I should write a list.. of all the bad things he said to me... that might help remind me of why I shouldnt even give him one ounce of attention. Its hard though, cuz I do find myself shrugging off the anger.. forgiving him again and again.. only this time he's not the one wanting me.. and I am just like some abandoned, bruise-hearted person... Im angry.. Im sad.. Im having a hard time accepting it. I worry because it's been a month and he shows no sign of wanting me back. I want to move on... but how? How do I truly move away from the pain and memories of this man?
itwontdawnsooner Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 kgal you need to find closure. if writing a final letter will help with that, that's the only way i'd suggest doing that. but if you are waiting for him to come back to you, you're not over him - when you dont expect him to write back at all, and aren't waiting for it but expecting it not to happen, thats a tiny step in the right direction. you can't erase memories, but they fade with time. nights will be very hard, and im sure you feel so damn alone. so write here. vent it out. but if you know you're going to regret it... dont write. take it one day at a time. as hard as it is.
Lishy Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Oh honey you will live and you will love again! It hurts like hell but you really should not write to him. He didnt reply last time and there is a high chance he wont again this time. Think of how this will knock you back! Write a mail to him and post it on here and NOT to him. Then you will read it and thank god you did not send it to him!!!!!!!!! Stay STRONG! Ps .... A good rant on here helps heaps!!!!!!!!!
In Sync Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 HELP, PLEASE!!! I'm wrestling with myself. I want to write my ex. Ugh... but then I think.. what if I write and he doesn't write back? Afterall, he didn't return my email when I wrote a month ago. I'm just so sad. I miss him.. I don't know why I would miss someone who treated me as bad as he did. I am seriously going in circles with my emotions. I guess I'll try to get on and do stuff to keep my mind off of him. But there are moments (LIKE RIGHT NOW) where I can't keep the pain from sneaking back in.. and the temptation to tell him I love him still. You are in such pain that I can feel it in your post. So take what I say with love. If I'm harsh better to be annoyed than pinning over this guy. At least when you are angry and annoyed you fight back. DO NOT WRITE THIS GUY. EVER. It will NOT get him to come back or care for you. It's wasting your time in a dry well. NC (NO CONTACT) is your second best friend, because right now you are your own best friend. And a best friend is going to watch your back. Understand This. Embrace it. From this moment on, start thinking about you. Memories are doing you no good. If anyone tells you other than NC that person does not have best intentions for you. SO take heed to all who have been there and done that. when we say don't write him or send him an e-mail. Don't do it. Keep yourself busy like you've never been busy before. Because an idle mind is well you know the phrase "a devil's workshop." You need to get away from memory lane. Make a list of all the ugly or do yourself one better make a list of all the things positive you could focus on that will fun for you to do. Anytime he comes into your head, catch those thoughts and say "OUT..I've GOT BETTER THINGS TO THINK ABOUT!" I'm sorry to say this over and over but you must take control of your thinking, and when it hurts so much that's when you need to be the toughest at this and make the effort even when it seems like you can survive the hurt. He is no longer on your radar. Remember if he treated you bad he will not treat you well again. You don't need a man in your life mistreating you. Best Friends Take Care of Each Other.
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