itwontdawnsooner Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 got into a big, emotional argument with my girlfriend the other day. we dont fight a whole ton, but when we do it can get heavy sometimes. well this time i thought it was actually the end. later i found out it wasn't, she said it was at the time, but she was upset. i was upset too... i started telling people "its over" because i needed support - some people responded with kind remarks, others said it was the right thing to do, my dad's opinion of her is now sort of tainted. he doesnt think shes a bad person, but thinks im being trapped, partly because of the things ive said to justify my feelings at the time, and i cant convince him now that its any different he's very opinionated - a few other people have said they know that she is needy. i agree, she can be. she is working on not being so much so and i can see she is a lot. i do love her, and we ended up deciding to keep going, but because i blabbed my mouth instead of just seeing how it worked out, ive maybe made it awkward for her at my house or around some friends. i dont know if theres much i can do, but advice or ideas would be helpful!
slubberdegullion Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 It's not anybody else's business. What reasons do you have for giving a rip what anyone else thinks? Now, about your dad, that's a bit different because you owe him due respect. So, if you're both willing, sit down and tell him what happened. He's a dude too, and undoubtedly has been through this sort of thing before when he was younger.
Author itwontdawnsooner Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 youre right slubberdegullion, it's not anybody's business... and yeah my dad's a dude. i guess i could try sitting down with him again, but im pretty sure his mind is made up. im at a point now where im not sure what to do. i love her, but i dont know where we are headed... i want to take it day by day now. instead of rushing to decisions when im emotional. youre right, the friends thing isnt as big of a deal as my dad. i mean, if he is set in his mindset, what else can i do really? i trust and respect his opinion immensley but i have to live my life and he's not always right. ehhhh. im afraid he's right in a way... and that if he is, does that mean its all in vain?
Author itwontdawnsooner Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 has anyone been in a similar situation here?
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