chocolate_boy Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Ok so my ex and I broke up almost 3 months ago now, been on full NC for about 4 weeks now, feeling good, I have no desire to ever see or talk to her again. However she has a ring that an ex-boyfriend bought her at my place still (don't ask, she wore it all the time we were together til I bought her a new one, yeah red flag!), she asked for me to look for it last month, I did find it and let her know I had it, then we had a huge bit of drama and haven't spoke since (about 4 weeks ago). I got in on friday night and had two missed calls off her (didn't respond) then got an SMS off her asking if i could give the ring back to her. Now problem is I do NOT AT ALL want to break NC, I don't want to see her. We did have a mutual friend, but she has basically become my ex's best buddy, so we haven't spoken for about 3 months. It's not an expensive ring, she apparently wants it for sentimental reasons. I don't want to chase around after her by getting hold of my ex-friends numbers etc. to get it back to her, and do not want to talk to my ex either, I suppose she could send one of her friends for it, but how do I sort this without breaking NC?
Author chocolate_boy Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 Simple. Fedex Ah never thought of mailing it to her, good idea. Still resent having to go out of my way to do anything for that b*tch though... but maybe it's the right thing to do.
JS17 Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Yep. Then you can stop wasting all of this time brooding about it. You're just giving her more of your time right now.
patwheel Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 How about your neighbor? Wont have to waste money on that!
slubberdegullion Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Simple. Fedex Exactly. And GET A RECEIPT so she can't pull the old, "It got lost in the mail" shyt.
Author chocolate_boy Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 How about your neighbor? Wont have to waste money on that! Well yeah my neighbor and I were friends for 2 years, but had a big fall out when I found out that everything I'd said to her in confidence she'd gone and relayed to my ex (who she's known for 6 months), they're joined at the hip now so I don't really want to talk to my neighbor again (haven't for about 3 months now). Think the post idea is better, although it still pisses me off I have to now go to the post office and pay for it to be sent to her. Like I owe her anything, she could arrange for my neighbor to get it I suppose, but don't like the idea of me running around after her to arrange stuff.
JS17 Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 You're not doing it for her, you're doing it to make your life better so you can stop worrying about it. Just get it done, you're wasting your own time.
CaliGuy Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 I'd take my time mailing it to her. I know it sounds morbid at first but you don't want to mail it right away and let her think you'll jump at an opportunity to get in contact with her. I'm glad your moving on and hope others gain inspiration in seeing your recovery.
Lishy Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Post it in your neighbours door and write on the envelope that it is to be passed on to your ex. Good on you for not breaking conatact!!!!!!!!
pippen_2k Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 I wouldnt feel obliged to give it back to her, and Im surprised she is even asking for it after what she put you through. Get some revenge and play mindgames with her.. say it was here but now its gone.. the knomes must have taken it.
archbean Posted December 16, 2005 Posted December 16, 2005 if you're going to mail it, you could send it cash on delivery.... if she really wants it, she'll have to pay
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