Mydish1 Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 The other night i was out with this girl, we kissing/making out, holding hands...etc like a couple. me and her arent in a relationship yet. Then today i meet her in school, she's like half of what she was the other night. no holding hands, her touching me once in awhile, half of the kisses were crap. Then she brought up something about afraid of people finding out (or mistaking us for a couple)...dont remember the exact words. Then i asked "why? afraid your friends are gonna catch you or something?" (but the thing is her friends already know im seeing her.) She didnt really respond to me. We go to a ceremony in a little bit. When she introduces me to people she says "this is my friend..." i just end up intiating the name introductions & shaking hands. IMHO, if you're introducing a girl/guy you're dating to someone else, it's much more respectful to use their names...ex: "this is (name)." i felt this was disrespectful of her. Honestly, this made me feel a little bit used. She has to stay at the ceremony, and i have to head to class. As we head near the exit door, and some classmates of hers come and greet her i said bye and exited. a sec later she comes out after me...silly me i went back for a kiss bye. After some thought i felt i was going to confront her the next time i see her. Then rethinking it, since this is the 1st time im going to let it slide...and if there is a 2nd time, no damn way! However since classes end this week, i wont be able to know if there's a 2nd time... I know she's really likes me and she knows im willingly able to walk away, but i dont want to invest my emotions and find out she's still doing this crap...by then it might be harder for me to walk away.
slubberdegullion Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Chill, dude. Believe it or not, this is good. She's a bit nervous around you, and from where I sit it looks like she wants to make a good impression of you to her friends. I think what you're seeing as stand-offish behaviour is just her way of showing that she's a bit shy. Nothing wrong with that. Let her come out of her shell on her own. You can help by being supportive and aware of her shyness, but confronting her and getting all bent out of shape won't do anything positive. So relax, you're doing fine.
kitkat826 Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Wow...I hate to sound like a party pooper, but here goes. Another possible reason, besides her being shy, is that she's "just not that into you". Tacky line, I know, but its a common source of people acting shady in public situations. I would wait for another situation to play itself out before coming to any conclusions, and at that point would ask her about her actions and your "status" as a couple or not.
Author Mydish1 Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 slubber, i think you're on point. I know normally she's pretty reserved about expressing her sexuality. But i guess i didnt see it in the point of view today. She is inexperienced/shy you could say. kitkat: we had that talk on our last date. we're not officiallly exclusive but we're giving it time. only been seeing her for about a month so far.... She's very much into me but i just dont understand why she's afraid of what other people think. I for one could care less...let them think what they will.
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