Boyfriend different

[Altaira]

after meeting in person.

 

His words of affection are less over the top, for example he'll now say "I love you less" less often and before he'd say it after every phone conversation and with more exaggeration like "I love you SO MUCH" OR "I love you VERY MUCH".

 

He also is subtly less emotionally open about his feelings. He is the one who pursued me and got me over my ex boyfriend. And I let him take pretty much all the initiative in calling me, and saying I love you, etc. I don't know if he's just tired of making the first move. Lately I notice he's wanting me to call him.

 

I brought up the topic to him last night and he said he felt closer to me after the meeting, and when I said I felt a distance, he said "no, no"

 

He claims he is an extrovert at work and an introvert in his personal life, and I did notice upon meeting him that he is more introverted. But when I asked him last night over the phone if he was shy at all, he said no.

 

I can't tell if he is just shyer after meeting, or likes me less. But he is definitely into me sexually. I asked him if he felt more aroused than romantic towards me, and he said "both, I can't feel aroused unless I feel romantic towrads you".

 

Any insights would be appreciated. Thanks so much

[Art_Critic]

He might be feeling a little different.. meeting for the first time can change things drastically

 

I also feel that you cannot love someone unless you have met before.. so him telling you he loves you is over the top .. in my opinion.

 

I think you have to look into someones eyes and say it before it hits home and can be real love

[Altaira]

What would be a surefire way to tell if that reason is the right one?

 

I've made negative comments on the internet to him and pretty much said goodbye and it made him mad, now he's making the effort to be more available, he's the boss where he works and he's been busy, he said he's tired of my being influenced by other people's negative input on the relationship, that he never stopped loving me, I just doubted him and he doesn't like it when I do that. But I still sense a difference.

 

I disagree that you can't have at least strong feelings for someone based on months and months of phone conversations, hours long, and emails, etc. In fact, it's less shallow because you're being less influenced by the physical (although we had photos of each other and loved what we saw). It can't be physical because I've been told I look better in person, people usually do.

 

He told me he loves me, during the meeting. He didn't look in my eyes, but then again, he's said before that he has trouble expressing himself emotionally. In fact he never said I love you back with an former gf. He's said things like I'm beautiful and after the meeting he said I was very goodlooking, a "desireable creature".

 

I'm so confused.