Aimée Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 How much do you want to be able to share with your partner? Would you like to be able to talk about past lovers, too?
Outcast Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Would you like to be able to talk about past lovers, too? Certainly not in terms of what happened physically, but since people are part of my history, I will include some anecdotes about them on occasion. Usually not ones that could be interpreted as making them look good or better than my partner, though. It would be a drag to be with someone who can't handle any mention of folks from the past.
whichwayisup Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 The way I look at it, by telling ALL, just be prepared you may not hear things that you're gonna like. Sometimes it's best to keep things to yourself. Some people have issues with past lovers, that whole numbers game etc... All I say now is, I am who I am because of all my experiences. In and out of bed. Wouldn't really go back and change much because then I wouldn't be who I am now.
Author Aimée Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 Thanks Outcast and Whichwayisup! More answers?
witabix Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Pretty much back up WWIU and Outcast. I actually like to hear about my SO's past, I enjoy hearing how x used to do this or that, especially when it is a really soppy or romantic thing, I had one girl tell me about how her foriegn lover wrote a song and recorded it on video and sent it to her singing how much he loved her. I thought that was really romantic, I perform live, in front of crowds, and I couldn't have done that!! I like to hear that my SO's exes were really nice people, I'd hate to think all they ever dated were jerks, because that would imply I am one too! I have no issue with the numbers game, it just doesn't matter one way or the other. I have never heard about actual sexual practices engaged in, but hey if something turns her on, I can do that too! And she knows she will enjoy it, its all cool, unless you start with the comparison crap, hey Alpha was much better in bed than you are, that sort of thing should be avoided. I reckon anyway.
Moai Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 I hate hearing about my partner's past, and I don't like talking about mine. It's over, I am past it, and that should be that. Most of the time when a Gf has told me about her past it does nothing but freak me out.
Author Aimée Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 Witabix and Moai, thank you, too! I was talking with an ex the other day with whom I'd love to get back together and in the course of the conversation he mentioned that he had in fact dated an ex-stripper once. Curious as I am (bless me... ), I said, "Oh really?!" and so he continued. I was wondering a bit if that meant that I had been cast into the friends zone and am now becoming his best female buddy. I've been wondering if I'm bonding with him in a positive way or if he's not starting to feel comfortable with me as a friend. Guess, you won't know it either, I'm just mumbling to myself here...
witabix Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Aimee don't you know the difference between talk and mutter? (For the older British crowd.)
Author Aimée Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 Aimee don't you know the difference between talk and mutter? (For the older British crowd.) I talk and rant too much and I always ask things that people can't really answer.
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