scobro Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I am finding over the last week I just cannot stop thinking about my ex my marriage ending and basically rehashing everything that happened to me 4 months ago.I was really cruising good and feeling better then out of the blue for no apparent reason other than a thought manifestation I became quite depressed and started missing my ex and I literally have been thinking about her and our past together every second of the day for the last 5 days.I am even back to dreaming about her.Is this part of healing or just very F#@ked up.
BrknHrt Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I hope its part of the healing because I've been doing the same thing the past day or two. It's only been a month for me but I was doing pretty good the last week or so and then yesterday and today I'm back to just wanting to curl up and cry.
JS17 Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 It's part of healing and it's normal to have relapses. You know 4 months isn't really that long so cut yourself some slack.
Art_Critic Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Scobro.. you are going to be going thru it a while.. dissolving a marriage doesn't come easily and takes time. the fact the divorce isn't finalized and won't be till the separation period is over also means that it is going to stay fresh in your mind and you will go thru it all again when the divorce goes thru. You will be healed by then so it won't feel like a huge weight.. it will feel good Stay tough and try not to do any stinking thinking.. chin up..
sick of it Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 maybe its the holidays or something...not like im thinking about it, but its everywhere around us. i went a good 2-3 weeks without crying or tearing or anything and this week has been hell. its a relapse...im on month 7 it happens...i guess
omegaRED Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Yep. The weather, season, holidays coming... It can bring us to our knees. But it`s gonna pass. It`s been 3 months for me, a lot more good days than there are bad, but there are days when i nearly fall apart. Such is life.
chocolate_boy Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Yeah same here, been three months for me and 90% of the time now I'm ok, but I did catch myself thinking about her again this morning for a few minutes, only to snap out of it by reminding myself what kind of person she turned out to be. Guess it's normal.
meltwithme Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 It's normal, read your list of 'the bad' again, if you haven't made one yet, do so even if you can only think of a few things at first... for some odd reason it really helps. When your mind wanders to her, self talk to yourself IE 'thinking about her isn't going to change anything damnit so start thinking about something else... ooooh a squirell' you get the idea But yeah it sucks when thoose thoughts come rushing back, yelling helps 'get out of my head bitch' or anything you can do to yourself to make your mind focus on something else. Stick with it, eventually thoose thoughts will become less and less until they fade. I got my hopes up high for one chick in highschool and it didn't work out, I thought about that alot but just the other day when her memory came up again I couldn't even remember her last name.
consumed Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 I'm in the same boat. It's been about a month and half for me, most days now are pretty good ones except I still do think about her alot. The dreams have been getting less and less and my life is starting to get back together but I still do get those downer days. Today is one of them. I guess it started because I saw one of her friends on msn which got me thinking about her and what she's upto. I hate it when that happends because all the emotions come flodding back into your head but you just have to try and block them out, think about other things. I also think alot of it has to do with the holidays which I'm not looking forward too. I've told alot fo people I really don't want to celebrate anything this season, I'd rather is be march right now.
Natalie05 Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 It's been almost 6 months for me and I still think about my ex - I've done NC the entire time but last week I sent him a Xmas card. Why - don't know. I just wanted to be kind and let him know I didn't harbor bad feelings. He is probably long over me and could care less so I shouldn't have sent it. Everytime I care about someone I get my heart ripped out and smashed to pieces - and I'm still nice to them.........I gotta start putting up walls and not trusting so easily - I'm sick of getting hurt. Why is it so hard to remember how awful our ex's were to us? Mine was a selfish, self absorbed a$$ and I still miss him. What's up with that?
wendel1 Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 4 months for me too! month and half now of NC...I think about her everyday too, she has a new b/f now.. even though I am going out, partying and stuff, it still doesnt get rid of the thoughts of her. Thought about sending her a xmas card, a month ago i probably would have, but NC must be working because now there's no chance of that. (she dumped me...so f*%& it!) Although some days I think...go on...just a text message wouldnt harm.... Anyways, gotta plan for panama beach spring break!
Art_Critic Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Everytime I care about someone I get my heart ripped out and smashed to pieces - and I'm still nice to them.........I gotta start putting up walls and not trusting so easily - I'm sick of getting hurt. I'm the same way as you Natalie05..I trust to easily to a fault.. I tell myself that I won't change that I like myself the way I am.. But I refuse to put walls up
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