Thug_Poet Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Hey all I need some advice I've been seeing this girl for 6 months. She lives about 3 hours away. She works and goes to school fulltime. Everything was great until a week ago and she all of a sudden stop calling me. Grant it, it was the week of her finals but she never called or emailed. So I finally email her after 5 or 6 days of neither of us communicating. All of a sudden she emails me this message (word for word): Hey, I am sooooooooooooooo sorry that I haven't been communicating with you in awhile, I have just been busy with alot of stuff, school and other things, I know I am not trying to make that an excuse, but I have just been thinking about a lot of things. This is the week of my finals and I am just waiting for it to be done. Ya know, for your sake and mine, I don't think I am cut out for this relationship stuff. I have came to the conclusion that I have alot of stuff going on, and like I don't really know if I want to be in a relationship right now. Trust me it isn't you , you have been so cool with me, too cool actually. Can we be friends? If you even want that, considering that I have been MIA. My phone got turned off today, because I decided to not pay the bill, because I had to spend it on something else, that is like gonna mess up my credit, but n-e-wayz. Yeah it has been really hectic these past days, and I am just waiting for it to be overwith, (graduation) lol. But yeah, in all honesty, I don't think I can be a good girlfriend right now, with all of this stuff going on, I am sorry, I know you are probably wishing that you never met me, and that I was a complete waste of time. I just feel like I have too much on my plate right now, to fully be in a relationship, I guess I should have thought about that before I said I would be your girlfriend, but there was no foreshadowing on my behalf. I am sorry if I have wasted your time, but I really enjoyed the time I spent with you, it was a cool experience, does being friends sound cool? Or if you want you don't have to continue talking to me as a person, I would understand that, I just, I am sorry for leading you on.... don't hate me......I gotta get back to my studying before I lose the interest to continue doing it. You can reply if you want, if you don't I understand........... So my thing is how can u break via email? Plus she never really gives me a reason why she wants out. I was thinking maybe we need a break but then I was like why do that. If she wants to break up then it was never meant to be. My problem is that I know I have to commuincate w/ her cuz she has some of my stuff but I dont know what to say to her. I definitely dont want to be friends but I dont think I should be with some1 this irrational.
confusedgeek Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Sorry man. Looks like game over. I'd probably just forget about the stuff if it was me though. Unless it was really expensive. In which case, id just ask for the stuff back.
Author Thug_Poet Posted December 13, 2005 Author Posted December 13, 2005 Sorry man. Looks like game over. I'd probably just forget about the stuff if it was me though. Unless it was really expensive. In which case, id just ask for the stuff back. Its not the price of it. Its the pictures I left there of me and family and friends. Most of the pics have nothing to do with her.
Art_Critic Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Plus she never really gives me a reason why she wants out. She gives the reasons thru the whole email about 5 times.. she doesn't want anything with you because she has too much going on and is too busy.. She feels bad but she knows that you guys aren't meant to be together. sorry you are going thru this..
Author Thug_Poet Posted December 13, 2005 Author Posted December 13, 2005 She gives the reasons thru the whole email about 5 times.. she doesn't want anything with you because she has too much going on and is too busy.. She feels bad but she knows that you guys aren't meant to be together. sorry you are going thru this.. Hey thanks man. I found out today so it is just sinking in....An email break up man thats whack......
Art_Critic Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I know it is whack.. it has happened to me before.. and she only lived 15 min. away from me.. the fact that it was only 6 months and she was over 3 hours away makes it a toughie for her.. The least she should've done was called you and talked to you on the phone.. Sorry
933KJL Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I had one send me an email too! It happens, don't let them get you down. It was a fun 6 months and time to move on. I would re-email her and say "hey, I am cool with it (no need to berate her) but I need to get my stuff, when can I come up oor when can you bring it to me?"
JS17 Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I actually think she did it well. Yes she could have said it over the phone but she also could have just disappeared or not given you a reason. I think you'll find many people on LS that have had that happen to them. Sorry that you're having a tough day, it will get better.
happymadison Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 here is your mail back; "Man!!! i am so glad you sent this letter. I was trying to figure out how to end this relationship with you, and now i dont have to. I was feeling like I was wasting my time and should move on, and have been making plans to do so. I know its tough being in a LDR and they dont usually last anyways. maybe its better that we find someone locally to spend time with. I also enjoyed being with you, but i dont think the friends thing will work; it will be detrimental to my next relationship and i have plenty of friends here to keep me busy. I have one last thing....i have to get my stuff back that i left with you. If you could email when you could bring those over and drop them off i would be grateful. see you later and email ASAP on the stuff. Hope you did wel inthe exams." just send her something like this, get your stuff back, and then block this bitch from your email and your life. she's not the only fish out there, so go fishing. Dont give her the satisfaction of thinking you really give a sh..t!!! she is classless to just blow you off like that, without any catalyst on your part. Guilt her into making the effort to bring your stuff back if possible, and i would try to get a place for her to drop it rather than wasting another second on having to see or talk to her. Flush this piece of crap, and get going. good luck.
Advant Posted January 1, 2006 Posted January 1, 2006 I'd almost agree with happymadison, but i don't think coercion and being mean is a good idea. I think you should just accept her decision like a man and just move on. Ask her for your stuff nicely and just stay friends. People see each relationship differently, and apparently she sees the relationship with you as a casual one that couldn't have gone long term. I guess she's just not thinking of anything further than graduation and the near future. Sorry bout it tho....hope you're ok....i have a feeling you were expecting something big and long lasting with her....i'm sure you'll find the one soon enough
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