mheacock Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I've been seeing this guy for 3 years now. We sold his house he bought with his ex-wife and bought a house of our own. I moved my daughter with me and consequently had to change schools. Now I'm wondering if I've made a huge mistake. Nothing I do is ever right it seems. And I don't want to live with someone who constantly criticizes me. But how do I break up with him now that we have a house together? We would have to sell the house, because he can't live there on his own financially. Would I have to owe him money for the house??? He's paid most of the bills, I helped with the mortgage once or twice, but I have my own bills and daycare for my daughter to take care of .. I just don't have the finances to share the responsibility of the house 50/50. Our money is still in separate bank accounts, thank god! He says that he has put about $25,000 into the house so far...would I owe him that???? Then there's the fact that I would have to probably move my daughter yet again, changing schools and what-not. I've already uprooted her once, I may have to do it again. We are already seeing a counselor, but I just don't think this is going to work. I guess my biggest worry is the financial problem. I don't have 25,000 dollars. Legally I don't know how messy this would be. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
JaneInVegas Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 I guess my biggest worry is the financial problem. I don't have 25,000 dollars. Legally I don't know how messy this would be. First of all, I'm going to assume your name is not on the mortgage. If this is true, then you owe him nothing. Unless of course the two of you have some kind of agreement about giving him X amount a month. Only worry about what you have agreed on. Since your biggest concern is money (and not trying to salvage the relationship) I would say it's time for you to fly. Last but certainly not least, don't worry about uprooting your daughter. When I was still with my ex, we traisped around this country like vagabonds because of his job. My daughter spent the 2nd grade in 3 different states - no kidding. Kids are much more resilient than you think. If it feels right to move on ... then move on. Life is too short to be with the wrong person. Good luck to you.
AriaIncognito Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 I dont see why you'd end up owing him money. If he owned his other house, sold it and bought this one, seems like he is the homeowner and you are merely someone who lives with him. If you aren't on the mortgage then you have no legal ties to the mortgage. If you have no written agreement between the 2 of you for rent or whatever, he really wouldn't have any grounds to sue for money. Jennifer
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