otherlover Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I need to know if other women are in my situation. I have been involved with a married man for about 3 months now and as i have been reading different posts on different websites, i have been feeling really guilty about our affair. Im not in love with him (thank god) because that would be too messy but i do love him. I just dont know what to do. Im so torn with ending things or to just keep them going. PS can i just say how happy i am to have found this site? i have been dying to talk to other women about our relationship
whichwayisup Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Take a good read of some other threads in this section. I think some of the replies and insights given will help you. Since you aren't inlove with this MM, end it. You will be hurt further down the road, so for your own sanity and self confidence, self worth, end it now. He is married, he isn't going to leave his wife, ever. If you decide to stay, you are allowing and being part of an affair which could turn out to be something awful in your life at some point...Especially if his wife finds out.
opheliaapplegate Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Please end it .. have you read my posting You are lucky not have fallen in love ... YET!! so please if you have to ask yourself ithe question to end it or not then you know deep down inside that it is not right and it needs to be over... no matter how pleasing it is... take care on your choice
Sami_D Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 You love him but aren't 'in love' with him..? That sounds odd for a new relationship. I'm not sure what you mean exactly. What are his circumstances? Is he M and staying M..? If so, and you're not terribly attached to him, then I would say end it. Because where is the sense in continuing with a MM if it's just a casual thing? But perhaps we're not hearing the full story of your attachment to him..?
ahotmess Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 I was soo excited to find this site as well. Not everyone here thinks we are horrible people for being involved. It's like a secret society or something! I think if you are not in love with him....definately don't keep it. I mean you never know when you are going to fall in love. It was just a bedroom thing at first for me, and for him. And at some point, we fell in love. Ending this now sure is alot harder than it would have been before. I'd give it all to go back and end it sooner. No I guess I really wouldn't. I love him. You really have to do what is right for you. I believe that with all my soul. Just be prepared for a very possible, very broken heart:( Best of luck...and keep posting. The site helps alot!
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