LonelyinGA Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 Let me start this off with a little story. About 3 years ago I was managing a new Atlanta Bread Company store here in GA and managed about 20-30 girls a shift. (heaven for most men right?) Anyway I started to become really good friends with one of my employees and we talked often even outside of work. I constantly talked about how I was too busy to have a girlfriend and would like to find someone who could accept me for who I am and wouldn't have a problem with my hectic schedule. She thought briefly and named off several people but only 1 in particular she thought would be perfect. So a week from this conversation she had me meet this girl in question at the mall to have lunch and introduce ourselves to each other. Well we went and met and things were awesome i thought she was cute and had a good personality and after talking to my friend that night I found out she thought the same. Anyway after that day we continued to date for 3 years and 1 month exactly. (October 29th 2002 - November 29th 2005) The first year and a half were like it should have been in a movie. We talked every day and spent every waking free moment together if it was possible. After the first 2 months of our relationship she told me she loved me and I had realised that I infact did love her also. After that first year and a half she got accepted to a local College (20 mins away) and was going to live on campus in the dorms because her parents said it would be a good experience for her. Well while she was out there we continued to talk and would see each other whenever possible. At the time in order to consume my time during the week I was hanging out with my friends on a regular basis. One night we all decided to go out together (My ex included) and we had a good time. Well one night i was working and my friends called her up and asked if she would like to go out with them and she willingly went. Now on a normal basis this would have been cool but this was a night that forever changed our relationship. About a week later she told me that she had a crush on one of my friends and that we should take a break from each other so she could explore this crush or just see other people in general because she had been with me so long and didn't feel that she had enough experience to settle down and she would feel like she missed out on something if she were to continue with our relationship. About 4 months went by (Us still talking every day...) and she finally said she was stupid for what she did and would like to give us another try. I took what she had to say and ran with it. From then on for the next year things were back to the way they were in previous months. We spent all of our time together, talked all the time and had a wonderful time together. Then things started going down hill again. She is fluent in both Spanish and English and loves a local mexican restaurant and speaks to the guys that work there whenever she goes in. Well one day she calls me up and said that she had went to the restaurant that day and that one of the waiters had grabbed her in the hall and kissed her. This yet again set our relationship in a down spiral and she started saying the things she was before about not having dating experience and didn't want to become unfaithful in the future if we were together. So she went and started hanging out with this guy and he treated her like **** and she found out that he has a girlfriend of 8 years and 2 kids which totally screwed her up. So she had forgotten about this guy and moved on with me, things went back to normal bla bla bla... Then all of a sudden less than a week and a half ago she comes to me saying she wants to see other people. Her exact words were "I love you.... But I am not in Love with you." which totally crushed me. I then find out that there is another guy that has talked to her about going out and she went out with him and is actively pursueing him. She tells me that she wants me to hang around because I am her best friend and she can talk to me about anything. But on my end it hurts like hell to hang around and to know about what she is doing with other people. On the same note she came over 2 days ago and said she "WANTED" me and we proceeded to have sex (But she wouldn't let me kiss her on the mouth). After that we have still talked almost every day but she is still chasing this other guy. So my question is WTF should I do? I am lost and need some advice.
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