CantDecide... Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 well today i was checking my email, and noticed somebody had updated there xanga. it eneded up to be my ex. turns out she was with sum guy, and i knew that she was and knew he was an ass. but as im reading her entry it turns out he screwed her over, and she said she was finally missing her past she had. and how when your in a loving relationship when som1 really cares your so sheltered from all the other a**h***s. she also just alked about how she hated all the bad weather snow and etc etc. Im thinking to myself i really am over her its been 6 months. im not sayingall the time god i want her back. Im happy i have friends who i have the time of my life with. in reading that xanga entry i for some reason however want to make her feel better. we chat on myspace every now andthen, and were probobly goingto end up grabbing cofee or a bite to eat. but im thinking evan though i dont want her back, maybe just leaving her a yellow rose (friendship) on her car or sumthing will cheer her up. and in all seriousness i dont want her back. i dunno maybe im stupid what do u think.
CaliGuy Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 well today i was checking my email, and noticed somebody had updated there xanga. it eneded up to be my ex. turns out she was with sum guy, and i knew that she was and knew he was an ass. but as im reading her entry it turns out he screwed her over, and she said she was finally missing her past she had. and how when your in a loving relationship when som1 really cares your so sheltered from all the other a**h***s. she also just alked about how she hated all the bad weather snow and etc etc. I wouldn't necessarily take that as a sign she wants you back. Im thinking to myself i really am over her its been 6 months. Are you sure? If so, why are you checking up on her? im not sayingall the time god i want her back. Im happy i have friends who i have the time of my life with. in reading that xanga entry i for some reason however want to make her feel better. we chat on myspace every now andthen, and were probobly goingto end up grabbing cofee or a bite to eat. but im thinking evan though i dont want her back, maybe just leaving her a yellow rose (friendship) on her car or sumthing will cheer her up. and in all seriousness i dont want her back. i dunno maybe im stupid what do u think. Please. Don't go meet with her. Don't give her flowers, don't do any of this stuff. You still want her or you wouldn't even be thinking of these things. Unless you have changed significantly, she has or the situation, you'll end up right back where you were. Wait for her to come to you and then you ask her "What's changed?" Unless she uses sentences that start with: I'm sorry I was wrong I've changed I've learned I want to work on If she says things like: I'm lonely I don't know why It's not my fault etc. Then run away. She hasn't learned anything and is using you as a stop-gap until she finds someone else. Live and learn.
Author CantDecide... Posted December 12, 2005 Author Posted December 12, 2005 im not saying she wants me back, it says flat out i dont necesarilly want my past back. ive moved on from trying to get her back, i only went to her xanga becaseu automatic emails send to u saying a friend has updated, and no1body uses xanga anymore so i never erased her off my list, but i still get emails if sum1 updates, i dont want her back im not giving up my new life ive created. im just a nice guy still to her. its been 6 months, and 4 months of NC. theres no way ill end up at sqaure one, i already knew she had a bf really didnt faze me that much.
Art_Critic Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 i already knew she had a bf really didnt faze me that much. But as it seems her not having one is driving you nuts.. hence the post You also mentioned sending her Flowers .. come on.. you want her back
CaliGuy Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 im not saying she wants me back, it says flat out i dont necesarilly want my past back. ive moved on from trying to get her back, i only went to her xanga becaseu automatic emails send to u saying a friend has updated, and no1body uses xanga anymore so i never erased her off my list, but i still get emails if sum1 updates, i dont want her back im not giving up my new life ive created. im just a nice guy still to her. its been 6 months, and 4 months of NC. theres no way ill end up at sqaure one, i already knew she had a bf really didnt faze me that much. If you've made it 4 months of NC then please, please do yourself a favor and don't break it. If she chooses to contact you then you can decide what you want to do. But if you break NC you're going to end up with a rush of all those old feelings back and just end up having to start all over from square one.
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