Why do men need a 2 x 4 to get it?

[justagirl1121]

and another who kissed his dog every night before he kissed his wife - sometimes instead of! - and insisted on sleeping with the dog.

 

HA! I Saw that one!!!!! Rediculous!!!

 

In my experience, the very little that i have....is that apparently guys like me, and my friends tell me so and so liked u, but they never once approached me....in fact half of htem i didn't even know, they may have just lived in the same dorm building...so absolutely no communication there.....not psychic, how am i supposed to know?

 

the other experience is, the guy seems interested, flirts, talks to me all the time, friends tell me they like me.....but the 2 x i told the person i liked them....i got the 'i like so and so' answer.....not even a hey you're cool but not interested in a relationship...yeah i guess im glad for the honest answer but im afraid to tell the person i like now who seems to like me....b/c i think i will end up the same way....

 

so i believe in communication, so long as they go first!!! yeah i know that's not balanced......

[a4a]

problem is that women are too worried about hurting feelings and not stepping on anyone's toes and "getting everyone involved". women always bytch that men are not open and honest but they (women) are not open, direct, or honest in their communications.

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Ok but how many men can handle a direct women? I say I think your attractive and I think I would like to bang you....... how many men would run like hell from this approach?

 

From my experience they do get afraid...... .... but take away that control and they shut down. You get "aggressive" and the man flips out.

 

I am probably too honest and direct.... I think it may cause walls to come up with my H?

 

And I am tired of hearing about the fruckin lawn over and over and over again..... I guess it is like a women that won't shut up about friggin kids or

their damn crochet class......... SHUT UP and go outside and roll on the friggin lawn! I hear blah blah blah blah blah blah....... new mower.....blah blah reseed blah blah blah blah....... JUST SHUT UP! Really it does happen to women too........ we get tired of hearing the same ole shyt too:sick: .......

 

a4a - Why do I have an urge to suddenly play whack- a -mole

[tanbark813]

The first step in communicating with men is to stop having the attitude that women are perfect.

[slubberdegullion]

...the attitude that women are perfect.

but my mum is; go ahead, ask her, she'll tell ya!

[JS17]

The first step in communicating with men is to stop having the attitude that women are perfect.

It's not an attitude it's a fact

[a4a]

It's not an attitude it's a fact

 

 

 

:lmao: :lmao: :bunny: :bunny:

 

a4a

[Outcast]

OK here's an example. There was a person in my life who found it absolutely hilarious to stand in my way when I was trying to do something. I might be taking something out of the oven or going upstairs to get something or heading to the restroom. Happened many many many times. After the first few, it wasn't funny anymore. So I say 'please don't do that'. In those words. I'm not smiling or laughing. Nothing happens.

 

Next time "PLEASE don't do that, I don't like it". Nothing happens.

Next time "I really hate it when you do that, please stop". Nothing happens.

Repeat until I have to shriek at the top of my lungs into his face

 

"WOULD YOU FERGAWDSAKES STOP THAT. I HATE IT AND I'M SICK TO DEATH OF YOU DOING IT AND IT'S STARTING TO MAKE ME DISLIKE YOU"

 

I was direct in every other communication. I said exactly what I wanted. It took maybe 20 times to get it through his skull that I intensely disliked the behaviour. So why did it need me shrieking like a banshee before he heard?

I didn't want to do that. I would have been overjoyed had he stopped after the first couple of requests. But no. Nothing would work until I turned psycho.

 

And no, I'm not exaggerating. I took conflict resolution courses. I know how to bargain, negotiate, etc. But it wasn't until I escalated that any message got through. Why? And this is just anecdotal but represents plenty of experiences of mine and of people I know.

[TUDOR]

 

 

Ok but how many men can handle a direct women? I say I think your attractive and I think I would like to bang you.......

 

*Tudor raises his hand* I'm not scared bring on the horny and agressive biotches!

[SmoochieFace]

Ok but how many men can handle a direct women?

 

That's what we want. We want women to be direct and upfront instead of playing mindless games. Just SAY it!

 

Indirect wishy-washy women are a HUGE turnoff. And ditch this *I don't wanna hurt his feelings* garbage... it's pathetic and most of us can see right through it. The only time that bulls*** is indeed transparent.

[Becoming]

I was direct in every other communication. I said exactly what I wanted. It took maybe 20 times to get it through his skull that I intensely disliked the behaviour. So why did it need me shrieking like a banshee before he heard? I didn't want to do that. I would have been overjoyed had he stopped after the first couple of requests. But no. Nothing would work until I turned psycho.

 

OMG this is a perfect example! This is exactly what happens.

 

And a4a I, too, am quite direct and evidently scary as well. Mostly logical until faced with a situation like Outcast describes above.

 

So what's the solution here? Go get the oven police? A whip? (Don't even go there!)

 

Or are we back to bics and nads?

[hotgurl]

Sorry a little sidetrack but I also hate it that women are always nags.

 

I asked my bf to do something and he said ok I will do it and weeks go by not done so I asked again more weeks go by no it is two months since the 1st time I have asked him ask again he says ok .. but don't nag me wtf.. It like we can't win. I you said you'll do soemthing than do it for god sakes.

 

and sometimes even if you communicate directly they don't listen at all and then are surpsrise when you are mad or leave or what not. total bs

[Becoming]

Sorry a little sidetrack but I also hate it that women are always nags. . . .

 

and sometimes even if you communicate directly they don't listen at all and then are surpsrise when you are mad or leave or what not. total bs

 

Precisely. So basically, the only option is to check out at that point, walk away, do it yourself or have it done by someone else if it's a patio.

 

And men wonder why they're feeling like women don't need them?

[hotgurl]

Precisely. So basically, the only option is to check out at that point, walk away, do it yourself or have it done by someone else if it's a patio.

 

And men wonder why they're feeling like women don't need them?

 

yeah but there are certan things that he should be doing as a partner and also they get mad if you do this.

 

MY bf was a mechanic and i was having car problems the car would stall when I was taking a corner or gunning it so he offered to fix it I said ok but I need it rigth away because I don't feel safe driving it when it is stalling when I make turns.

 

He said ok I asked 1 time then took it to a mechanic boy was he pissed.

 

I said I am not nagging you but I needed done soon and you didn't do it.

 

men are so weird like that

[Becoming]

Good for you! You go, gurl!

 

So is it about looking good to others? Is this why he was mad? Or what?

 

Do men have to be the hero all the time or what?

[Becoming]

*Tudor raises his hand* I'm not scared bring on the horny and agressive biotches!

 

 

What about horny aggressive women who don't want to be considered biotches but equals who don't want to be used, just respected and loved? Honestly, now, would you be taken aback by that? Take advantage of the situation as is but not really be interested in anything serious?

[TUDOR]

What about horny aggressive women who don't want to be considered biotches but equals who don't want to be used, just respected and loved? Honestly, now, would you be taken aback by that? Take advantage of the situation as is but not really be interested in anything serious?

 

The biotches part was just meant to be funny. In my experience a horny agressive women that comes to you and says I want to f*** is not looking for your respect and love but rather your ability to just to lay her proper. If you want respect and love this is not the right approach because it doesn't send out the right signal.

 

But yes if some one is in the market for a relationship and your are bold enough to tell them want you want including sex and your preface it with the fact you are looking for more than an quick roll in the sack but you are still a women with needs then you are being direct but honest about your intentions. This will get more takers than you think because a man looking for relationship will appreciate your direct approach and there is something sexy as hell about a women that knows what she wants.

[a4a]

Oh my had the same thing happen to me........ I am capable of minor repairs. God forbid tho if I got into his tools to get the freakin rock out of my wheel that was jammed up against my stinkin rotor.

 

Each time I asked if he would look at it, I got "sure".......then nothing. Until I started to the corner mechanic ......finally got the freakin tire pulled off.

 

He just left, oblivious to 4 bags of trash...... went right by them, and is driving right past the dumper.

 

Typical..... but, why why why why why why?

 

Is it more difficult for men to plan or multi-task?

 

a4a- will greet him with a mallet to the head when he gets back.

[tanbark813]

Is it more difficult for men to plan or multi-task?

 

Maybe you're just dating an idiot. Not all men are the same. (I know that's shocking information.)

[a4a]

No Tan I think he is just inconsiderate about certain things like many men are.

 

a4a

[TUDOR]

No Tan I think he is just inconsiderate about certain things like many men are.

 

a4a

 

I have known my fair share of women to be inconsiderate too, so I would say like many "people" are and not just men. Sexiest!

[Becoming]

Actually, brain studies indicate that it really is harder for men to multi-task. Whether it's biological or learned, tho, is open to debate.

[hotgurl]

Good for you! You go, gurl!

 

So is it about looking good to others? Is this why he was mad? Or what?

 

Do men have to be the hero all the time or what?

 

I think it was a pride thing like he wanted to fix it for me and when I took it somewhere else it bruised his ego. but whatever I wasn't to wait have it stall in an intersection and get hit. I gave him a week.

[tanbark813]

No Tan I think he is just inconsiderate about certain things like many men are.

 

a4a

 

Right, because women are never inconsiderate. I think the problem you have in communicating with men is assuming that it can't possibly have anything to do with you since women are so perfect and men are so evil.

[Becoming]

Plenty of time by any reasonable standard.

 

Notice the men have gone silent . . . ?

 

That's a hint for (how shall we say this directly?)

 

Speak! We can't read minds, ya know.

[JS17]

Right, because women are never inconsiderate. I think the problem you have in communicating with men is assuming that it can't possibly have anything to do with you since women are so perfect and men are so evil.

I'm glad you're starting to see things the way they really are. Good job.