ReluctantRomeo Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 I think I wouldn't date anybody I met on LS anyway. After posting my secrets here on LS don't assume you're in the race anymore. Other girls will become the victims of Alpha's Darcy routine... have you no empathy?
ReluctantRomeo Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 Aha, but we wouldn't be giving away any secrets that Jane Austen hasn't already shared very eloquently. It remains to me to point out the logical flaw in this argument: you're assuming that Alpha reads Jane Austen
lindya Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 It remains to me to point out the logical flaw in this argument: you're assuming that Alpha reads Jane Austen Yes, that could be stretching it a little....
alphamale Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOUR GUY IS A PLAYER before he runs away with your heart? the best "players" know how to not make themselves look like players.
ReluctantRomeo Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 Yes, that could be stretching it a little.... He has a strong preference for the Brontës...
loony Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 Other girls will become the victims of Alpha's Darcy routine... have you no empathy? I'm wondering now if the girls the players are after are the same ones who would fall for Mr. Darcy. Or are they not rather the ones who would fawn over someone like Hugh Grant (what was the name of his character in the film again?).
Rebellious Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 You guys make it sound as if there is something malicious or sinister about a so-called "player". It's just nature's way of ensuring procreation. Don't fight it
ReluctantRomeo Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I'm wondering now if the girls the players are after are the same ones who would fall for Mr. Darcy. Or are they not rather the ones who would fawn over someone like Hugh Grant I think the players are after any conquest their sorry @sses can get...
Lilly Posted December 13, 2005 Posted December 13, 2005 I totally agree with ReluctantRomeo. Players will go after anything that is breathing. I know guys that are players and they are not picky.
Author SMHappyface Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 Ok, I have a guy I like that is very picky on who he'll seriously date, but has gone out with a lot of women in his time, which he admits to. Ok, not a lot like 40-60 (he's 29). Anyways, does this mean he's a player, or that he just has a lot of opportunities that he doesn't wish to pursue further after he "tries"?
Kitteney Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Keep a mental log of his anecdotes, then once you've heard a whole load of them he'll start repeating himself. A good ear and careful observation of his mannerisms will give you clues as to the extent to which he rehearses his anecdotes and relies on a set "routine" rather than having genuine interaction with women. Good advice. And this doesn't have to apply to suspected players.
Yamaha Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Some questions to ask yourself if he might be a player. 1. Does he let you ever answer his cell phone for him? 2. Does he spend lots of money on your dates? 3. Can you reach him by email and phone easily? 4. Does he have a lot of female friends and acquaintances and won't introduce you? 5. Does he have friends that are married - or in serious relationships? 6. Does he break dates or change plans to not include you? 7. Does he spend a lot of time picking out his clothes, doing his hair, or working out? 8. Does he tell you about his life? Bare in mind he will be attentive, sweet, funny, interesting, flirty but will put you off if you try to get to involved in his life. He will be mysterious as well so many women will fall for his game. Waiting for sex is not a fool proof way to tell as some players will spend months grooming a gal as he has many other women to keep him satisfied.
kitkat826 Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Ok, I have a guy I like that is very picky on who he'll seriously date, but has gone out with a lot of women in his time, which he admits to. Ok, not a lot like 40-60 (he's 29). Anyways, does this mean he's a player, or that he just has a lot of opportunities that he doesn't wish to pursue further after he "tries"? Having "dated" 40-60 people is not really a lot for his age, though the definition of "dating" varies wildly from person to person and from situation to situation. It could be going to get lunch, casual sex, a series of weekends "hanging out"....basically anything thats more than friends and less than relationship. If you figure hes been dating for 13 years or so, than thats really only about five people a year. Which is very possible and common if he's not really been in a lot of exclusive relationships, which he claims.
Rebellious Posted December 18, 2005 Posted December 18, 2005 Ok, I have a guy I like that is very picky on who he'll seriously date, but has gone out with a lot of women in his time, which he admits to. Ok, not a lot like 40-60 (he's 29). Anyways, does this mean he's a player, or that he just has a lot of opportunities that he doesn't wish to pursue further after he "tries"? Hehe, that's a trick question
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