Just wondering about things...

[BW7]

Ok well, Ill try and make this short...

 

So, Im going out with this girl, Ill call her Kelly. I am now 17 years old, she is 18.

 

I had gone out with her 3 years ago. I was 14, she was 15. It lasted for about 9 months, but we ended up breaking up, because we rarely got to see eachother, and it seemed pointless to keep going out when we only got to see eachother once a week.

 

So, after we broke up, I pretty much didnt talk to her at all for about a year. She had found another guy, and I had found someone else also...Its not that we hated eachother, I just stopped going to the mall, or any of the places I used to, so i didnt see her at all.

 

Now we are going out again, and I was just curious if anyone had any opinions on wheather this relationship would last at all. I really hope it does, I really really love this girl, and I dont see how I would live without her now. I know I am serious about this relationship, and I think she is also.

 

The only problem I think there is, is just that I have to initiate pretty much everything. For example, I am the one doing almost all of the calling, or asking her to do things with me....Is this ok?

 

So, this time We have been going out for 4 months. I think we are doing great, and she seems to be really happy. I think part of it is the fact that we are older then we were the first time we went out, and have gone out with other people and have concluded that we had the most fun when we were together.

 

So in conclusion, I guess my questions are is it ok that I have to initiate everything?

And, This is the only girl I have ever said "I love you" to, but I know she has said the same thing to other guys....Is this a sign that she takes the whole relationship thing less seriously?

 

thanks soo much for your time reading this, this is my first post on these forums, and I think they are a great.

[whichwayisup]

I wouldn't assume anything negative. Come right out and ask her how happy she is. Be honest, speak from your heart, tell her how you feel, how happy she makes you. Keeping that line of communication open is good.

 

She may be a procrastinator or maybe she's abit shy and prefers you to take over...Gently suggest to her your needs. (If some aren't being met)

 

Other than that, just enjoy the relationship, enjoy eachother!

[Brittanyjean06]

stop being the one to do all the calling-maybe she is used to you calling so she feels she doesn't have to call you!-

[BW7]

Thanks alot you two. I guess I shouldnt worry about anything, Im probably just trying to something wrong with our relationship because no relationship can be perfect...