lahage Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 why did my boyfriend sleep with agirl right away after we broke up of 5 years he said its been building up that he doesnt love me as much or he cares only if im hurt why wont he tell me he slept with her why does he leave it to his friends and the get mad at them when they tell me, any guys out there who can give me a perspective on why he did this and acts mean to me when hes the one that jumped in the sheets fast cause i cant yet.
Art_Critic Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 It is less about moving on and more about numbing the feelings so as to not feel the pain and memories.. He wants you to think he has moved on and what better way than to sleep with someone else.. The funny thing is though is that by sleeping with someone else he is moving on or trying to.. Sorry that you are hurting
Kengne II Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 why did my boyfriend sleep with agirl right away after we broke up of 5 years he said its been building up that he doesnt love me as much or he cares only if im hurt why wont he tell me he slept with her why does he leave it to his friends and the get mad at them when they tell me, any guys out there who can give me a perspective on why he did this and acts mean to me when hes the one that jumped in the sheets fast cause i cant yet. Life Lesson # 1: Men can, and do dissociate sex from their emotions. Just because he slept with her so soon does not mean he loves her and/or loves you any less. For men - the physical sexual act is often distinct from their romantic feelings towards a female. He is most likely hurting, and sleeping with this female to either move on and/or hurt you. When I broke up w my ex bf after I found out he cheated, he often threatened to go out & sleep with this 1 girl I was jealous of (as if 1 more person really made a difference to the congo line he'd been through ). His reasoning: he was hurting & alone, and didn't want to feel that. He never actually did it - or so he says - and that's because he realized that it would've been empty & made him even MORE aware of what he lost in me. Hope this helps you to understand! K.
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