twinkle2 Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 Hi everybody I am having a major problem.....I can't seem to maintain no contact with my pseudo ex (we weren't really bf/gf). The longest I have made it is about 3 weeks then I find some excuse to call him. Afterwards I feel so stupid and pathetic. I cry a lot and I promise to never call him again but for some reason I keep doing it. Any suggestions? How can I stop giving in during my weak moments?
Art_Critic Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 If you can make it 3 weeks you can make it forever.. Just post here the next time you feel like contacting him. Try to go out and have fun.. if yuo are out having fun you won't think of calling him
Author twinkle2 Posted December 11, 2005 Author Posted December 11, 2005 Those 3 weeks felt like forever too. He ended up drunk dialing me one night and since then its been me that has been breakin no contact. The worst time is when I go out. I always hope that I will run into him or something. And when I drink, I almost always end up calling him. My "friends" are no help either. There's even a new guy but I really am not interested in anything serious with him, but of course he thinks the world of me! I've been reading some of the other posts and I see that my situation isn't that bad compared to what others are going through. I just wish I didnt care so much. I want to be over him so I can get on with my life. I have finals next week and I can't even focus to study because I think about it so much
Kengne II Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 Those 3 weeks felt like forever too. He ended up drunk dialing me one night and since then its been me that has been breakin no contact. The worst time is when I go out. I always hope that I will run into him or something. And when I drink, I almost always end up calling him. My "friends" are no help either. There's even a new guy but I really am not interested in anything serious with him, but of course he thinks the world of me! I've been reading some of the other posts and I see that my situation isn't that bad compared to what others are going through. I just wish I didnt care so much. I want to be over him so I can get on with my life. I have finals next week and I can't even focus to study because I think about it so much First of all - if you're drunk dialing you need to erase his number from your cell. It's harder to drunk dial if you have to manually keypress in the whole number. But 2nd - drinking is no excuse to be breaking NC. If you know you are weaker when you drink - then don't drink! Post on here.. go for a walk.. do something, ANYthing but don't make the temptation harder by making yourself weaker *via drinking*. What helped me IMMENSELY deal with NC was simply talking to other people.. other friends... getting more involved in their lives, and not nec partying down the place (even tho I did that too ). The good ppl of LS.org are here for you. Use us!! K.
Author twinkle2 Posted December 12, 2005 Author Posted December 12, 2005 Kengne while you are right about the whole drunk dialing thing thats not the only time that I've gotten weak and called, its just when I am drunk, it almost always happens. Thanks for the suggested alternatives to drinking but I dont think those would work at 3am on a fri/sat nite. I have erased his number but its ingrained in my memory. I have blocked his number in my text messages, so that should help. In the past two months I've really cut down on my drinking and I don't go out that much anymore so its better. As for my friends, I have had to start hanging in a new circle because my old friends have disappeared now that they have boyfriends/fiancees etc. Its kind of sad b/c I don't even see them at all anymore. Its like they're too busy or something....thats what made me come here. I think if I can make it through this month I will be fine, I've got school to finish this week, then next week I'll be out of town and then the new year will be here. Plus I know that I can come here and vent if I need to which is great! I first posted yesterday, today I feel really well, I havent felt this good in over a month! I feel more confident now that I can overcome this. Thanks for listening
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