SMHappyface Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 A past relationship is never totally a mistake if you can learn from it. Today I've been thinking of ways to improve my future relationships and learn from the past. While I don't think my ex leaving me was my fault, I do think if I did some of these things, he would've left me sooner thus saving me lots of heartache: In 2006: I want to enjoy a man's company, but not need it to be happy I want to create and maintain space in ANY relationship while still making every effort to make the times we do spend together as perfect as possible I will maintain and create other friends to fall back on I won't expect more out of the relationship than what I have today No man is worth changing myself for What love I give away will be without any future conditions I will live in the moment, enjoy today and not expect tomorrow I will never settle for anything Never allow a man to disrespect me as a human Take time every day to do something for you Never lose your inner child At least that is what I got so far...
Craig Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 What happened to gaining 30 lbs and dyeing your hair black?
seachange Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 Definitely time to make some resolutions here... In 2006: Some of these are restating what SM just said: I will stop: wondering what my ex is up to all the time, thereby thinking myself into a sad loop boring my friends to tears by bringing my angst over this breakup into every other conversation, thereby keeping it alive underselling and devaluing my own worth, and appreciate myself for who I am And instead, I will: let myself enjoy life as it is, rather than thinking about what it could be or ought to have been repay my friends for their patience by being a more giving friend to them finish the great American novel
Author SMHappyface Posted December 11, 2005 Author Posted December 11, 2005 What happened to gaining 30 lbs and dyeing your hair black? Ahhh, you must have a fetish for slightly chubby black-haired girls?! Hahaha
Craig Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 Ahhh, you must have a fetish for slightly chubby black-haired girls?! HahahaI was just referencing something you talked about Hahaha, maybe I should dye my hair black and gain 30 lbs?! :-p Then they would HAVE to like me for me, lmao http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=647669&postcount=6
lilmoma1973 Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 Mine would be that my daughter would get out of this phase of being hard to get along with and myself to have more patience with things and learn to relax and enjoy life and quit being so stressed!!!!
Kengne II Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 I like this thread. Moving forward into 2006 I will strive to: - focus on & enjoy each and every day (as opposed to consistently reminiscing in the past, or dreaming of the future). - acknowledge & remember that TOMORROW is NOT guaranteed to ANYONE. - think positive - control my thts & emotions (as opposed to letting them control me) - understand that hurts & falls in life are INEVITABLE, and each disappointment I face is a LESSON LEARNED and an opportunity to GROW STRONGER because of it - continue reminding myself that happiness comes from within, and I certainly do NOT need ANYBODY in my life - male or female - to make ME happy - except God of course ;-) - work on my trust issues and emotional baggage (and learn to check it at the door at the start of any new rel'ship) - stop punishing males (intentionally or unintentionally) for the hurt & pain caused to me by exes (as they should not have to pay the price for someone else's sin) - become a more emotionally giving & concerned friend, sister & daughter - be more patient & tolerant with others - define & become in touch with my inner self & spirituality, - EXPECT NOTHING FROM ANYONE, and APPRECIATE & ENJOY EVERYTHING BY ALWAYS BEING TRUE TO MYSELF. OK that's enough for now! lol. K.
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