gordon_gc Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 Just a question easy and simple... How does seeing someone new is perceived by the other person ? My gf broke up with me and it does hurt a lot (still). I know I have to move on. I met a new girl I like but not sure I should get into that new relationship. My ex gf's friends live around where i live and don't want to get in trouble (even though I shouldnt feel guilty).
rastafari Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 trouble? with who? i hope you arnt talking about your ex or any of her friends. dont act like she is your mother and you will get in trouble. dont give a siht what she or her friends think.screw her. you are free now to do whatever or whoever. but dont get with this new girl just to get your ex jelious, thats plain silly. if you truly like her, move on from there. see what happens.
rastafari Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 o yea, its going to make her very jelious if your with this new girl. it will at least bother her. its just nature.
Author gordon_gc Posted December 11, 2005 Author Posted December 11, 2005 trouble? with who? i hope you arnt talking about your ex or any of her friends. dont act like she is your mother and you will get in trouble. dont give a siht what she or her friends think.screw her. you are free now to do whatever or whoever. but dont get with this new girl just to get your ex jelious, thats plain silly. if you truly like her, move on from there. see what happens. I do not intend to see someone else for the only purpose of making my ex gf jealous but the issue I am facing now is...My ex gf is still in my head and I love her. I know that waiting for a change will not do anything. In some way, hanging out with that new girl will occupy my mind. She knows the situation I am in and she is cool with it. Ultimately, I dont want to waste the tiny amount of chances i might still have with my ex gf by hanging out with someone else... How would the ex would react ??? Has anyone lived that situation from the breakerup side ?
omegaRED Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 So you`re gonna put your life on hold and pass up a good opportunity to be happy and have fun JUST for the sake that your ex MIGHT contact you and ask for a second chance? Dude... Forget her. Water under the bridge. It`s over, and that implies that you are free to do anything (and anyone ) you feel like.
J dub Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 >I do not intend to see someone else for the only purpose of making my ex gf jealous hallelujiah! >My ex gf is still in my head and I love her. thats because you need someone else in your head. Pretty simple. >I know that waiting for a change will not do anything. Bingo, waiting for nothin. >In some way, hanging out with that new girl will occupy my mind. Oh yes, it will >She knows the situation I am in and she is cool with it. Dude, it just doesnt get any better. TAKE IT WHILE YOU CAN< FOR THE SAKE OF EVERYONE ELSE HERE WHO WOULD KILL FOR THAT. >Ultimately, I dont want to waste the tiny amount of chances i might still have with my ex gf by hanging out with someone else... Wtf, WHY would you think you even *have* a chance? She already left, youre kidding yourself! >How would the ex would react ??? Who cares? She made the decision to dump you, do you really want to worry about what someone who found you dispensable thinks? I Sure as hell dont. She has to deal with whatever feelings occurs if she finds out, same as she made you deal with your feelings of loss/rejection/agony when she walked out the door. You are taking her feelings WAY too much into consideration given the circumstances. You have to remember: She left you. >Has anyone lived that situation from the breakerup side Forget what others have done or dealt with. Just enjoy this other girl for your own benefit. Thats the great thing about being newly single: you get to learn how to be selfish for a while again. Seriously, stop wasting valuable time before you make this other girl second guess whether or not she wants to be with some wishy/washy fella.
Author gordon_gc Posted December 11, 2005 Author Posted December 11, 2005 Jdub > Thanks for your honesty...I believe I am still influenced by that evil side of the brain called EMOTIONS. Finding someone new is not a challenge for me and I am enought confident to say that I can find someone if I want to...It is just that I don't feel honnest seeing someone while still thinking of my ex gf....i know, i know, you will tell me to move on and stop thinking about her because she doesnt give a s*** about me anyway but still. Selfish is something I still have to learn to do...I tend to think a lot about what other will feel. I guess I just don't like the concept of hurting after knowing how it feels...whether it is someone who hurts me or not... By the way, I have a question...can i ask how to deal with the NC day by day ? Everyone says it is hard and a constant challenge but I'd like to know how to get over that will of contacting the other person. In my case, I have big rush of anxiety that makes me feel real bad and i'd like to know how to deal with this.
CaliGuy Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 Sometimes jealousy will work, but really, if you haven't changed as a person or she hasn't, even if you got back together it wouldn't work. Using jealousy as a tool to get an ex back is just delaying the healing process. If they want to come back on their own because they realized what they had and they're willing to work on the problems that contributed to the demise of the relationship, then sure, it might work. Otherwise, no dice. So many of us are focused on getting our ex's back and all we're doing to keeping ourselves miserable and missing out on meeting someone better.
Lonestar Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 I started dating someone else, my ex found out about it, and got extremely jealous. He never thought in that idiotic head of his that I would go with someone else. He called me up, said he hadn't slept for 3 nights, and wanted to get back together. We did and things were great for awhile. He was a changed man, doing all the things for me he refused to do when we were together before. After awhile he got comfortable and shifted back to his old neglectful self. We broke up again for the same reasons. When you only imagine someone you love with another person it's easier to accept, but when you actually SEE it or hear about it from a reliable source, it can tear you to shreds. That's one reason why no contact is so important in getting over an ex. You don't want to know anything about what their doing with another man or woman because it WILL hurt if you still love that person. Ignorance is bliss. If you want her to get jealous, date the girl, and make sure she finds out either through her own eyes or a friend. I suspect my ex will come running back again when he hears I'm dating someone else, but I won't be answering the phone
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